We select our initial words off the top of our mind based on our emotions. The words we speak on a daily basis can carry immense weight, especially if you have a willing ear. If you’re wanting to make a difference in someone’s life, then carefully choose the words you say.
If you’re in a position of influence, there are certain words of encouragement you need to say everyday.
This could be your significant other, close friends or family, employees and colleagues, and everyone else you care about.
If you happen to have a crowd gathered who needs to listen to you, that doesn’t mean you’re smarter or more knowledgeable than them.
So always weight and appreciate your words, always back up and justify all your statements, and have valid reasons for your decisions.
Always be ready to give a reason for these words of action, verify everything you do with sense and logic, and never from a position of authority or arrogance.
When taking the time to explain your decisions, especially if they’re controversial, what doing so does is it opens up those words for discussion or criticism, while giving you options for future improvement.
Words To Say On A Daily Basis
• 1.) – Always Say You’re Welcome – Think about the last time you gave someone a well thought out gift, and the recipient appeared ungrateful and awkward. The reaction took away from the giving.
The same can happen once someone thanks you, or are complimenting or praising you some how. Make sure you acknowledge them by saying “You’re Welcome.”
Don’t spoil the moment for them in their time of gratitude.
Even if the spotlight makes you feel uneasy, make eye contact and sincerely say, “You’re Welcome.” Make it all about the other person.
• 2.) – Admit You Were Wrong – We all make mistakes and have poor judgement on occasion. So whenever you’re in the wrong or there’s a chance you’re wrong, admit it by saying you were wrong, you made a mistake.
What happens once you admit to your mistake is you’ll earn respect rather than losing it.
• 3.) – Say You’re Sorry – We humans are never perfect and we know when we aren’t, yet it’s our ego which stops us from admitting we made a mistake. We then attempt to cover it up somehow or hope no one noticed.
We all have things we always need to apologize for, which includes our actions, words, omissions, failing to step up or step in. We fail to show support or respect, all things we should be sorry for.
So the quick easy fix is just to say you’re sorry, but never follow up the apology by adding a disclaimer such as, “I was really upset because…” or any other statement which places the blame back on someone else.
Just say you’re sorry, be genuine and mean it. Say why you’re sorry while taking all the blame it’s your fault, even if it’s partially your fault. No less, no more. What you’re doing is making a fresh start.
• 4.) – Tell Someone They Are Awesome – No one ever gets the proper or enough praise that they deserve. So pick someone, anyone, even a person you don’t like, who continuously does or did something well and say to them, “Wow, that was excellent how you…”
Go back in time to the past on what someone did, and say, “It was great how you handled that problem last month…” Doing so can have just as much impact right now, as it would have back then.
Giving out praise is a gift which costs absolutely nothing to the giver, but is priceless for the recipient. So begin praising. Those who are around you will appreciate and love you for it, and you’ll also like yourself more for doing so.
• 5.) – Let Me Help You – The majority of people think asking for help is a sign of weakness. So because of this, most will hesitate to ask for anything. Everyone at one time or another however needs a bit of assistance from someone.
If you see someone in need, avoid saying, “Is there anything I can help you with?” as what most will instinctively say back to you is, “No thanks.”
Instead, chose to be more specific. Find something you can be helpful at by saying, “I have a few moments, can I help you finish this?”
Make your offer in a way which feels more collaborative and not patronizing or gratuitous. Then actually be prepared to help.
• 6.) – Will You Be Able To Show Me – There’s a saying that advice is temporary but knowledge is forever. Knowing exactly what to do helps, but knowing precisely how or why can mean everything.
When you ask someone to be shown or taught, then several things will happen. What you’re doing is implicitly showing your respect to that person that’s giving the advice.
You’re showing that you trust their experience, skill, or knowledge, and then you get to assess the value of the advice given. Never ask for their input, but rather ask to be trained, taught, or shown.
At Times Just Say Nothing
There are times the best thing is to just say nothing. This especially if you’re frustrated, upset, or angry, just let it pass and look forward to a better day.
You may think that venting will make you feel better, but that’s rarely the case. It makes you look entitled and needy instead.
Results will always come and go, but feelings lasts forever. Once you criticize someone, especially in a group setting, it may appear they’ll get over it eventually, but deep inside the scar remains.
So before you speak, consider how they’ll think and feel before you evaluate whether what you’re about to say makes objective sense.
You can recover from a mistake which is made because of inaccurate or faulty projections, but not from the damage you inflicted on someone’s self-esteem.
So make sure you remain silent until you know exactly what you should be mindfully saying, and know exactly what affect your words will have.