What we’re told is to be pleasant at all times, but usually, more often than not, we don’t feel like it so we don’t look that great. But since most of us are now on public display because of social media, we all pretend that we’re contempt, happy and positive at all times.
Feeling negative is also thought to be a sign of weakness or inadequacy, that it’s some type of a personality disorder. So we’re forced to internalize our emotions, mask ourselves if we feel miserable, which can compound and then potentially create bigger issues.
It’s a human trait however that we experience negative emotions first, this then mixed in with positive feelings later. These negative feelings also makes us feel like crawling back into bed, accusing the universe that it’s conspiring against us.
It’s found however that having negative emotions can be more beneficial than most think. Feeling bad, such as pessimism, sadness, jealousy, anger, guilt, anxiety, can be advantageous.
Being Upset Makes You Pay More Attention
Feeling sad but not depressed, forces us to pay more attention to the details of our defeat, forcing extended information processing.
By becoming more detail oriented our memory improves, you can judge others better, be more attentive to making changes in your life, communicate feelings more precisely, construct better arguments while becoming more creative.
Pessimism Helps You Prepare
Most think that those who are optimistic always outperforms their pessimistic counterparts, this because of their confidence and the expectations that they have for themselves. Instead, it’s found that pessimists perform equally.
Pessimists will perform just as well because what negative thinking does is it triggers their anxiety into action. Imagining the worst case scenario prepares them for anything, which motivates and prepares them to get ready.
Feeling Guilty Improves Morale
Guilt is that nagging feeling once you think you did something wrong, even if you didn’t. These are the moral standards that we set for ourselves, controlling our levels of social sensitivity and our need to be responsible.
It’s known that those who are prone to feel guilty more often than not, are less likely to do bad things such as stealing, drinking and driving, overeating, or assault someone.
Guilt is our brains reaction once we commit something wrong. We’ll feel bad for a moment, but if it lingers, feel guilty or sorry that you did something wrong, then that means you have high moral standards.
Anxiety Solves Problems
Once challenged, what we all face is the “fight or flight” response, giving us the option to confront, or escape the perceived danger. How we decide is based on our anxiety level.
The fight or flight response is automatic, where our body will metabolize energy, which alters the nervous system forcing the heart to beat faster, which forces more blood into our brains and muscles, this to react to the situation at hand.
Once these situations arise, anxiety will often overrule any positive thinking. Anxiety helps finding solutions to the potential conflict sooner, such as avoiding danger. When anxious, you’ll instantly react to any pressing situation.
Mind Cramps Elevates Creativity
Mind cramps occur when we’re attempting to complete a task that’s important, and then suddenly forget what we were doing. This occurs far too often for many.
It’s found that having mind cramps is actually the incubation period needed for thinking creativity. Our brains become distracted because of unresolved issues while making future plans. Ideas that we’ve never thought of then begins to form in our heads.
Once we have a brain cramp, they’re also often kept private and personal, which is why they’re unnoticed by others, while we look confused.
What we have are those “aha” moments, where we experience a burst of insight, brilliance, or creativity, this regarding a problem that we’re having, this when we least expect it.
These bursts of insights can occur at any time, such as when we’re showering, driving, when we’re aimlessly surfing the Internet. They’ll hit us when we’re not thinking about the issue we’re attempting to resolve.
Getting Mad Solves Conflicts Sooner
There’s a strong correlation between getting mad and becoming aggressive, which can turn into violence. Getting aggressive from anger occurs around 10% percent of the time, while aggression can occur without getting angry.
What anger does is it motivates a more active approach towards the situation, this by addressing what instigated the anger, which becomes beneficial to help solve the problem quicker.
It’s found that positive outcomes can arise from anger, such as being angry can help fix issues in relationships immediately, while fostering a greater understanding of what the conflict is.
Although assertive expression is preferred over angry expression, anger serves an important alerting function which can lead us towards deeper understanding of the problem, or the other person.
Unexpressed, or if the anger isn’t used constructively can morph into the unwanted expressions of the emotion. Any anger that’s internalized can cause health issues and difficulties to communicate.
Jealousy Produces More Effort
If you put two complete strangers into a room together, what they’ll instinctively do is begin sizing each other up, deciding who’s better looking, smarter, or stronger. One can also become jealous of the other.
It’s known that when it comes to jealousy, what we attempt to do is make things equal by tearing someone down, or alternately, we’ll become benign and positive, thinking that if someone else can do something, then so can we.
The latter is more beneficial. It’s found that students showing benign envy will out perform their peers in school. Someone who has accomplished a goal that they’d like to accomplish themselves, motivates them that much more, forcing them to work harder.