Our life begins to function better, more efficiently once we start making our own life choices. But most will continue to struggle, live their lives in sorrow and disappointment, as they fear change.
When it comes to children, most choices are made for them. Their parents, guardians or teachers will tell them how and what to think, dictating what’s best for them.
As a result, children have little or no say over the macro events of their lives, or what happens to them on a daily basis, and this is what’s expected.
Once this happens to adults, being constantly told what to do, we feel we’re being victimized.
The ability to make our own life decisions, is the opposite of being a victim.
The concept of making our own choices is extremely remarkable, as everyone has the right to make their own decisions.
What some avoid however, is they know they have this freedom of choice, whether it be impulsive or reactive, but are too terrified to take action.
Some find it extremely difficult to take responsibility for their failures, the pain they’ve caused to themselves or others, based on the choices they’ve made.
As a result, they end up blaming their boss, spouse, parents, for all their misfortunes, and failing in life.
They acting out of ignorance doesn’t absolve them of the responsibility for they making poor choices.
Most will just plead ignorance once they make a bad decision, such as driving over the speed limit, and then saying, “Officer, I didn’t realize.”
A Victim Culture
What we live in is a victim culture. A world of blaming others.
It’s usually, always, the other person’s fault that we fight, go to war, disagree, get into car accidents, lose money in the stock market, get a divorce.
What victim hood, placing blame on others always does, is makes us feel better.
We pass off responsibility thinking we’re in the right, but it also makes us helpless while perpetuating our problems.
Reversing The Process
So what is it you truly want in your life?
A relationship without pain, a peaceful loving family without turmoil, success in your work.
If you want any of these things, you need to stop thinking that you’re the victim.
Having the right to choose is taking the initiative to create exactly what you want, and not always settling for Option B, because Option A is too hard, too painful.
Instead, take complete responsibility for all your decisions and the subsequent outcome.
There are universal laws in this world, such as the Law of Gravity, along with other laws which are just as powerful.
One law in particular focuses on helping those who chooses their own actions, while bringing pain to those who feel they are victims.
This natural human law dictates:
• What goes up must come down
• What’s on the inside will always show up on the outside
• Energy always follows attention, and
• Whatever it is you believe in, you can achieve
If you don’t think you have a choice, then you’re right, you don’t.
If you shove the responsibility for your choices and your outcomes outside of yourself, this law will attempt to teach you to take more responsibility.
It will force you to repeat the same lessons over and over again, until you get it right.
Making Your Own Choices
What we have is the knowledge, freedom, and the technology to create the exact life we want for ourselves.
Most of the external social issues, such as crime, poverty, disease, violence, are the result of making poor choices.
These social problems will persist as long as we believe we don’t have a choice.
Those who makes their own choices know what they want, and they know how to get it.
They’re in charge of their lives, they take complete responsibility for whatever happens.
What making your own choices does is it takes confidence, risk and effort, but anyone can do it.
Being the chooser means taking complete initiative for your outcome.
You’re in charge of creating what it is you want in your life. You don’t restrict yourself to who or what chooses for you.
The Power To Choose
Often, we think we don’t have a choice.
We’re unaware of our power to be able to choose, and the power our choices have.
Know That You Have A Choice
You’re never stuck, you always have a choice, even if you don’t know what they are yet. Never allow the lack of information or impulse to result in making a bad choice.
Realize Your Choices
Assume that there’s more choices than you’re aware of. Identify a few of them which are available to you, realizing you don’t always know what you don’t know. Identify the best choices and never settle for the unproductive ones.
Making The Best Choice
Compile all of the information and then make the best possible choice, this to get the exact outcome you want.
Evaluate a choice that’s based more on the most likely long-term consequences of making that choice.
• Be Creative – Seek out new ideas and opportunities which are beyond the past and the present
• Take Calculated Risks – Accept failure and rejection and learn from them, treat them as a part of life, a lesson learned, never take it personally
• Become Assertive – Always ask, state, say what you want, and always directly say “no” to what you don’t want
• Be Proactive – Never just continue to react to events, or by habit, waiting for things to happen to you
• Set Goals – Clearly define your goals and then vigorously pursue them
• Assume Abundance – Never think scarcity. Believe there are always plenty of resources and opportunities. Think positive, anticipate success
Your life is the compilation, the sum result of all the right choices you’ve made, either consciously and unconsciously.
So once you begin to control the process, the right of choosing for yourself, then you take complete control of your life.