What self improvement stipulates is development, continuing to get better. What we need to accept first, is that we’re responsible for everything that has and will ever happen in our lives. We need to be accountable, as we’re the end result of our current being.
From the day we’re born to right now, we’re surrounded by negativity, as it bombards us constantly from every direction. It begins with our parents, as it’s usually “the blind leading the blind.” They’re imperfect people who had a moment and produced us.
The teachers at school will attempt to influence knowledge the best way they can, but they’re also imperfect human beings with potential nurturing issues, complying to an antiquated educational system.
Our peers, mostly damaged from emotional trauma themselves, can belittle and ridicule us in the playground and beyond. We attempt to comply to these pressures, which results in emotional scars that just won‘t heal.
Why You’re Here Today
There are a thousand reasons why you’re still alive at this stage and present position of your life, including your dire outlook and the lack of belief that you have in yourself.
But a new journey begins with a single step. When improving your life, the first and most important imprint is accountability, taking full responsibility for your actions.
When taking the initial step of your journey towards the path to success, what’s important is to take complete liability for your decisions, the thoughts which led to where you currently are.
You need to stop blaming others for the state of your life, your current circumstances. The things which happened in the past can’t be changed, removed, or altered. The past is done, your power is in the present and the future.
The Past Is History
No matter how hard you try, how hard you struggle, complain, feel regret or rejected for what you’ve done in the past, you can’t change it. You need to accept that it occurred and then build or learn from it.
Eliminate the environmental circumstances of your desperate issues. Once you take full responsibility, become culpable for your life, along with all its circumstances, you’ll gain tremendous power activating a dormant life, realizing potential.
Always Take Complete Blame
Stop blaming others for your broken issues and outlook, as doing so will lead you to ruin. The simple fact being, if others are responsible for your problems, then you have no say in changing them, while they don’t care.
They have their own problems to deal with, and most likely blaming you for them anyways. Once you finally realize that you’re the only person who’s responsible for your life, and all of your faults, is when you’ll realize you’re the only one who can fix them.
This exhilarating feeling once you grasp control of your life and then accept it, you’ll no longer need to rely on others to fix you or your circumstance. You can regain full control and then begin to direct your own destiny.
Begin Manipulating Yourself
If you’re attempting to manipulate environments, circumstances, or other people, you’ll always remain out of control. There’s no way you can control everyone and everything.
What you can manipulate however is the world that you live in as you see fit. You can change your surroundings, the job you hate, your home, the people you interact with, and curve it to how you want it to be.
You Have Great Power
Regardless of what faith or religion you may believe, or if you don’t, what’s undeniable is that there’s a greater force among us. Some call it fate, or luck. This faith resides in all of us, regardless.
What this offers is the belief that we have access to resources and infinite power beyond our control. This infinite power is expressed in the physical world through our decision making and our intentions.
Always Strive To Be Better
What most want is to better their lives. Many have this motivation however, but will never do anything about it. But once we connect to the “source,” whatever force you believe in, can be life altering.
You wouldn’t have ambition or wanting to better yourself, if you thought it wasn’t possible to achieve them. You weren’t placed on this earth to struggle, but to overcome challenges and enjoy this journey of life.
Getting What You Want
Start with your passion. Decide that you can and will reach your goals since you know you’re the only one responsible for directing your life, and that no one else should or can help you.
Create a vision which ignites your enthusiasm. A vision on something that you’ve always wanted to be or have. The kind of vision which springs eternal hope while the soul takes flight.
Then set your intentions and effort to achieve it. You’ve become responsible for your destiny, as you’ve set the vision for your future, a vision of a better life.
Establishing Goals
Set up small goals by taking “baby steps,” as achieving them will bring you closer to your vision. Always set goals which will take effort to complete, but not impossible to reach, this so you won’t get discouraged and quit.
Write down your vision and then the steps on how to reach them. Make statements which reflects the positive outcomes as if they’ve already happened, such as, “I’m extremely grateful as I now own my own successful business.”
Never frame it in negative terms, or by wanting that goal. By “wanting” something, all you’re doing is just confirming to yourself that you lack it. Once you have a want, you’re sending a clear message that you need it. So instead, believe that you already “own” it.