The Need To Love Yourself First Before Finding A New Relationship

You become smitten once meeting someone new, someone who makes a dent on the “matter” scale. The hope is that this initial spark. is mutual and can become potentially eternal. But then, you’ve experienced this feeling of swoon before. You wonder why it’s so difficult, to keep these juices flowing long term, when it comes to keeping and sustaining an everlasting relationship.

Why does that mercurial rise of the “love” chemicals, that initially existed in the relationship, suddenly fade away, and comes to a standstill. It appears inevitable, that any love affair after that initial meet and greet, that preliminary giggles and gushing, predictably turns into doom and gloom, devastating boredom.

What can be worse, is that the current relationship you’re in, that felt like love at first sight, ends up with daggers thrown at each other, this to the point of self destruction. Experiencing real genuine love, should be constructive, supportive, and grow.

The key becomes to love yourself first, love your dreams, love your mission, and be mindful about it. Then surely enough, that wonderful person to fulfill your soul will show up, and love you back equally if not more.

The Lifespan Of Everything
Everything that’s living has a certain lifespan, a cycle. Imagine in the springtime, that there’s a viral red juicy plum that blossoms. It eventually grows fully ripe, and becomes ready to be picked.

As is life, what it eventually transform itself into, is a wrinkled dried-up prune, as it lives out its lifespan. It has taken its course, the freshness and vitality completely sapped out.

Its life has completely evaporated, while the exterior skin is still there, wrinkled, while its innards are completely depleted. All it’s youthful vitality, the pleasure, the fun, the love is gone. What just remains is vinegar.

The Beginning Of Any Relationship
At the beginning of the relationship, the juices flow and rejuvenates much like that plum. It spreads virally throughout the body. Every cell is electrified by the attention and the interest, of meeting that someone new.

You blossom, your body becomes ripe with all that focus placed on you. This is the ultimate form of human energy, and this energy is what makes you flow. This makes every fiber in your body tingle.

This ideal romantic relationship however has a limited lifespan, as the energy is generated by the other person, rather than you generating it yourself. Realize where the flaw is. It’s that initial feeling of being in love, that’s feeding you the energy.

What you need to do, is self generate your own feminine or masculine energy internally. This balance, is what makes you complete, so the love you feel is genuine and can become eternal.

An Energy Crisis
Once you begin to depend too much on the energy that’s provided by that other person, you’ll feel the need to possess them, or you want them to possess you, to fulfill your daily energy needs.

When you’re not able to balance and establish your own energy, you’ll then feel the need to control that other person, this to get the energy that you can’t generate yourself.

This can however become tragic, because what you need, is to control that person at all times. Then one day, they just might give up on you, and then begin directing their energy towards someone else, depriving you.

Then what will you do. You’ll most likely begin to collapse, shrivel, while you become desperate to stay in control. The definition of “control” in this case, is attempting to possess what’s not yours.

It becomes a process, to reducing that other person to be an object. They’re no longer seen as human, but something that needs to be manipulated, as you need their energy.


Stop Being A Control Freak
Ultimately, you know you can’t control someone, while thinking that you can, which robs your peace of mind. You then become subjected to anxiety, which turns into fear and anger.

Every time that you feel you’re losing control, your anger elevates, as you throw a tantrum, this in the attempts to gain back that control. No relationship, can withstand this type of pressure, so it will eventually collapse. Then you end up alone, again.

Play The Staying Game
What then happens, is that you repeat this cycle all over again with someone new that you meet. So how do you stop this merry go round, and create a love that lasts. Begin by concentrating on yourself, rather than on someone else.

Make sure, that you focus on what your mission on this earth is, on what’s most important to you. Once doing so, you’ll then be fulfilled with self sustaining energy.

Know And Love Yourself First
You need to first find out how to become a complete balanced lovable person, this by yourself. Find what your purpose in life is, what your passions are, and then focus on them at all times.

Set attainable goals for yourself, don’t stray, while doing everything you can to reach them. Stick to your dreams, spend time alone, this before meeting someone new again. Remain that person, become that person, this instead of clinging on to someone.

Keep your dreams alive, be loyal to your relationship, never give what you don’t have. If you can’t be loyal to yourself, how can you be loyal to someone else. If you lose yourself, you’ll then lose the relationship again.

Someone who really loves you, will love you back even more, if you’re true to yourself, if you love yourself. If someone doesn’t love you, because you follow your dreams, then they’re not worth being loved by you.

If someone gets angry, because you want to achieve your dreams, then they’re not being supportive. If they become jealous because you have success and they don’t, then that’s their problem.

Always Be True To Yourself
Don’t ever lose yourself, in the arms of another. Always believe in yourself, and then the love will last forever. Focus on the reasons why you’re here, by making it a first priority mission in your life. Then you’ll be loved, for who you are.

Love your dreams, your life, and then that wonderful person will appear, and will love you back. Once you generate your own energy, you’ll then attract that true love who’s not currently in your life.