We’re taught to attack life in a linear fashion, as all life does is ticks forward, and will mercilessly leave victims in their wake, this if we don’t keep up or pay attention. So as life accelerates, it becomes logical to think that you need to keep it steady and on track.
The more changes and transitions that you make and go through, the more opportunities that you have to perceive the shifting patterns of your life. How you manage change, whether you can effectively negotiate all it’s necessary alterations, sets you forward.
The ability to assess, know where you are at any given point in your life becomes an extremely valuable tool. By the time you reach mainstream adulthood, you’ve experienced enough of life to know the majority of the fundamental nuances about yourself.
What you like and don’t like, what your trigger points are, what you’re good at and what you distaste. You know your special talents and what you can contribute to the world, what falls short of reasonable expectations.
To Know Thyself
You calculate your vibration, you know your instincts to realize what you want and then go for it. You develop a sense of what you’re capable of doing, and then plan to accomplish them. You identify yourself rather than allow others to do it for you.
This formation begins as young as preschool, where traits of aptitude becomes transparent on what you’re gifted at. Parents who are aware, will focus on managing their child’s activities, those dedicated to increasing their chances for a better future.
Eventually, the child will then need to take over the process of self discovery themselves, ideally the sooner that this process begins early on in their lives, the better.
What children need is to ultimately separate and individuate themselves away from their parents. They need to develop their own experiences, while learning how to manage and live them.
Although parental and school guidance is essential, children should be allowed to make their own decisions which are age appropriate, taking full responsibility, while learning to accept the consequences.
It’s Ultimately Up To You
Whatever happens remains ultimately up to you. Be aware and realize when you’re making excuses or inventing reasons why your life is so difficult, as it’s ideally your discretion to navigate on your own.
Never assume that what feels familiar or comfortable is where you should be at. By relinquishing your responsibilities, what you then allow is others to make these critical life choices and decisions for you. It’s then no longer your life, but someone living it for you.
To Control Your Life
You need to weigh all your options, and then put all your thoughts and feelings into motion by taking action. Conscious actions which has the power that will creatively translate all of your personal, intimate, and wants into something tangible.
So consider the options, all the possibilities and then choose the one to pursue to its conclusion. Becoming personally accountable for everything that you do, will free you from outside influences.
Doing so also boosts your confidence in your ability to make sane healthy decisions with conviction, which ultimately generates trust in your selection process. What you’re doing is expressing your individuality, presenting your unique and fresh perspective.
Don’t Be Afraid Of Change
What you need to recognize is that change is inevitable for living a fulfilling life. The fear of change, afraid of stepping towards the unknown does is creates a dull monolithic existence, narrow in scope and uninspired vision. What change does is creates possibility.
What then happens is that life gets in the way of all your grandeur plans, and then you’re forced to once again change your course of action. What becomes of the thoughts and the feelings that you go through.
Responding To Change
The response to change of this type will depend on who you are, what you expect from yourself, and what you feel you need to do, what your obligations are.
Some will throw themselves into doing whatever it is that needs to be done. Some are known to thrive in critical situations, this once they feel needed or appreciated. Others are less proactive, waiting for the situation to unfold, or will allow others to take charge.
The Burden Of Making Changes
When it comes to emotions when needing to make changes, there can be a gamut of confusing feelings, becoming overwhelmed, disappointment, anxiety, indecision, depression, all which can simultaneously set in.
If you need to change course, or are required to suddenly put your routine life on the back burner for a period of time, there are specific emotions which springs forward when making this change, especially at the beginning.
There’s a sudden sense of loss, the feeling that you’re giving up something comfortable for something new and different, and then discomfort and doubt floods in.
Once you go through these waves of indifferent sentiments, you’re far along in the process of the transition, where you can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Most will be able to regroup themselves, establish priority, and then follow through until their goal is reached.
When Change Is Unavoidable
Situations where you have no control, may appear overwhelming and daunting, so it’s best to break things down into smaller segments, which gives you a better chance to see what’s happening and what you need to do.
Once you’ve decided, placed your own plans aside, then you’ll be less affected by the emotions associated with change. You can then address the practical matters to get things done in order, this by taking care of your own priorities.