Mental Mind-traps Which Can Play Havoc On Your Emotional Life

avoiding mental mindtrrapsYou constantly think that you’re not good enough, can’t measure up to others, that you’re useless and a burden. Most of your decisions never turn out that well. Everyone always appears better, smarter, and that you realize you’ll never be as perfect as them.

All you want is to be liked, accepted, that your contributions are acknowledged, but regardless, your core feelings are that you’re unappreciated. On the surface, you appear happy and sound of mind, but you ultimately feel that you’re failing at this thing called life.

These types of mental traps can turn severe, which continues the mechanical cycle of hopelessness. For some, they’re so deeply ingrained in their mind, that they’re completely oblivious to it.

Living in a world of these mental mind-traps is similar to living a lie. Your perception becomes tainted, and the negativity brings forth unrealistic, usually absurd and untruthful thoughts.

To overcome these, constant vigilance is needed, while mindfulness must be applied. What needs to be known are what the various mental mind-traps are, this to eliminate them.

Constantly Making Assumptions
You make assumptions that something is true, this based on what you think, which is a supposition, all without proof. Assumptions about others and yourself.

This is damaging to your life because all you’re creating is unnecessary emotional and mental drama for yourself, this especially since you always assume the worst.

Assumptions also leads towards you making false judgement regarding others, which can harm or destroy relationships with those you care about.

Have Certain Beliefs
You believe without a doubt that something is true, even if it isn’t. These mental beliefs can be extreme, making the mental terminology extremely strong.

Like all mental mind-traps, beliefs are held unconsciously in the mind. They can often become so deeply rooted, that they’ll spook the conscious mind as being the truth, such as, others are always trying to take advantage of you.

This can play havoc on your life since any type of belief can be extremely blinding by nature. If they’re not even true, they can affect your life profoundly, as they’re deeply held in your mind.

What beliefs have is a dramatic way of crippling you with fear, this if you have enough conviction. Your life and the enjoyment of it then becomes extremely restricted and limited, resulting in a sad lonely existence.

You Make Comparisons
What you constantly do is compare yourself with others, to see if you measure up, both physically and mentally. “She’s way smarter (prettier) than I am.” Comparisons also between yourself and what you think your ideals should be.

Dissatisfaction in self is what drives comparisons. What we want is to be better, to be perfect, and excel over others. What comparison also does is it drives competition, as we’ll use others, or our ideals, as yardsticks for success.

This is a mental mind-trap because what making comparisons breeds is jealousy and envy. The end result being anger, frustration, and pain. This places strain on your relationship with others, which can also destroy them.

You Desire To Much
To “desire” is that you want something that you don’t have. We usually desire because we feel discontent, that we’re lacking. We just don’t have enough of a certain something.

We feel we’re not adequate enough, “I want to be this way, but right now I can’t.” You want to be a certain quality that someone else has, but you don’t have it. Desire and comparisons are similar, as we’ll compare ourselves, and then desire something that’s bigger and better.

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This needs to be overcome since what desire equals is pain. What desire often results in is lust, which results in obsession. The end result being disappointment.

All of the major crimes in our society such as murder, theft, adultery, all stem from desire. Once we desire something that you can’t have, it results in pain.

Your Expectations Are Too High
To expect something is having the preconceived notion that something should or will happen. Expectations are created by rigid minds that once challenged, it crumbles, placing the mind in turmoil.

You unconsciously think that someone will treat you nice, but it doesn’t happen. You’re then instantly let down by your expectation. Expectations are misguided certainty, which are symptoms of a security seeking behavior.

What you can do is instantly create expectations for yourself, such as you unconsciously thinking that you’ll begin to sweat, and then you do so profusely.

This is a mental mind-trap since if you’re expecting certain behavior from others, it will usually result in disappointment, frustration, confusion, or anger. This can also place strain on your relationships.

Also, once you begin expecting things from yourself, doing so can create a host of issues. What your expectations becomes are self-fulfilling prophecies, this by manipulating the outcome of a situation, whether it be good or bad.

For instance, if you’re expecting to be tired, then you will be, even if you’re not. This can have a negative effect on your life since your own mind becomes biased against you.

Your Ideals Are Not Realistic
What you’re wanting is the perfect outcome, situation, to be that ideal person that’s usually generated only in the mind. Ideals are symptoms of perfectionism.

They’re also usually unrealistic goals, which are almost unreachable, and impossible to live up to. Ideals messes with your mind since they’re usually too hard, at times impossible to achieve, then mental along with emotional frustration occurs.

What ideals causes you is to live under immense pressure, which creates immense anxiety. Once disparity is realized between what’s ideal and what’s reality, dissatisfaction always results.

Someone who is a perfectionist and an idealist is often someone who’s to difficult to please, and a harder person to live with. What ideals does is they’ll negatively impact relationships.

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