What most think is it’s impossible to be positive at all times under every life circumstance. This is a fact of life we all need to deal with. What’s also impossible, is we can’t think positive and negative thoughts simultaneously. It’s either or.
Things rarely go as planned. We can however set up warning signals and safety measures, by developing better habits and forcing outcomes.
What we all strive for is to pave roads of enrichment. To hopefully master this thing called life, our life, and all of the furnishings surrounding it.
All this while on the quest to find happiness, success, love, and abundance in our daily living. As we grow older, our lives become the direct result of the habits we adopt.
To Fortify Your Habits
So if you have a ritual of working out, to meditate, read or write first thing in the morning, then you’re setting yourself up for a day of positive beginnings. You’re on the right track.
But most however, will become distracted and stumble out of bed just before noon.
Then they wolf down donuts or day old pizza, while surfing their Facebook newsfeed for hours, living an unproductive existence.
Their lives continue down the all too familiar spiral of destruction, while becoming miserable for doing so.
Getting Better Everyday
Instead, try to get better everyday in everything you do. To improve is a sacrifice you need to make. This does not mean you need to give up on everything you love to do, which may be certain vices.
What the forgiving world we live in does, is gives us second and third chances. New opportunities to hit the “reset” button to get it right the next time.
This allows us to build a better life for ourselves, once we decide to exert the effort and do the work.
It’s just a matter of making the right choices and sacrifices, to survive what doesn’t kill you.
Never Hold Grudges
Holding grudges are daggers to the soul. Holding on to unnecessary anger is like grabbing a hot lump of coal, with the intention of throwing it at someone you don’t like. It’s your hands however, that gets burnt.
This doesn’t mean once someone does injustice towards you, you should become meek and dismiss it or pretend it never happened.
What this means is never allow it to fester in your memory and your gut. All while planning future destructive actions towards the person who did you wrong.
Life is a series of mistakes. We all make them, as we ourselves most likely let someone down somewhere at one time or another.
This is the human condition. So just forgive yourself and forgive others without judgement as quickly as possible, and do things differently next time.
Think What’s Missing In Your Life
You’ll never be perfect and if you were, that would make you quite boring. Everyone has their faults and imperfections.
If you were perfect, then you would have no goals to work towards. There would be no reason or motivation, to challenge yourself to get better everyday.
So instead of focusing on what’s deficient in your life, focus instead on what you have and are good at.
Learn to become more grateful. Not because others are worse off than you, but because you’re able to choose what you’re happy about.
Who Cares What Others Say
Who really cares what anyone thinks or says about of you. That’s their opinion and station in life, and not yours.
Make sure you address those who acknowledges something good you did, by showing your gratitude and love them back.
Once you expose yourself to enough people, regardless of what you do or say, not everyone is going to agree with you. Not everyone is going to like you. But that’s their problem not yours.
Just focus on those who likes and supports you, and release those who’ll stab you in the back or gossip about you.
Learn to take all the criticism in stride, and treat it as tough love. Just extract what you need to learn.
If someone genuinely dislikes you, you shouldn’t completely ignore them either. Know the difference whether it’s a direct malicious attack, or if it’s constructive criticism.
Face Confrontation Without Anger
There are times when you need to stand up for yourself. You also need to do so in a diplomatic way. Remain calm and cool.
This could be a friend who constantly wants something. It could be that overbearing parent, or a co-worker who constantly sabotages or takes credit for your work.
Once these situations arise, most often, they won’t go away by you attempting to avoid or ignore them.
You need to put up your human deflection shield and become fierce. You need to diffuse the confrontational situation.
Begin by not holding a grudge, although it can be difficult when someone is attempting to sabotage your life.
At times, they don’t even realize they’re terrorizing you. So just tell them up front face to face, their actions are affecting your life.
What you should never do is seek out this confrontation. You’ll rarely win any arguments, especially with someone who’s accustomed to creating this type of distress intentionally.
This occurs more commonly when dealing with those who are usually more rational, or those you need to deal with on a daily basis.
For instance, if you’re in line at the coffee shop, and a complete stranger continuously jumps the queue, get upset and give them a piece of your mind.
Waiting For The Perfect Opportunity
Time is something that’s in constant perpetual motion that’s always ticking forward. It doesn’t care or wait for anyone. You’ll eventually run out of either money, time, or good health.
Time doesn’t care about you. So fulfill all of your goals and dreams by taking action right now. Never procrastinate and wait for tomorrow.
Don’t keep waiting until you have more skills, more information, or more money.
Just calculate your risk factor the best you can, throw caution to the wind and then go for it. Take that leap of faith.
You may first stumble and fall, embarrassingly fail, you might hurt your pride, but at least you know you’re taking action.
This is you kicking and screaming, striving to live life to your fullest potential. Shout out loud you’re not going to go down that easy.
If you’re wanting to do something with your life, you have dreams, there’s no point in waiting for that perfect time, as tomorrow never comes.
So just go for it right now. Jump in and make it happen, and then you’ll be living life on your terms.