So there you are, you’re well on your way, your journey on the path to emotional healing. Your heart and mind is literally in lock down mode. Yet, your muscles feel tight, the breathing is rapid and shallow, as the feelings of fear distorts clarity.
The first instinct of any human is to feel fear, as it acts as a safety valve because of the unknown, which dictates their behavior.
What fear does is it takes control, as decision making becomes muddled. The biggest disappointment is that most allow it.
This mainly because it’s basic instinct, or most will mistake fear for its social twin, stress. After all, stress has practically becoming a measuring stick for success in our lives.
We’ve been conditioned that fear is for the weak, something that we shouldn’t disclose to others, that we need to deal on our own, in the angst of our misery, crying it away during the middle of the night.
Fear is the most dominant negative emotion and every other emotion festers off of it. Yet, we allow it to ferment. The ridding of it is the core to healing.
No One’s Perfect
Never be afraid of criticism or rejection, otherwise you’ll bury yourself attempting to be perfect at all times.
What this mask of perfection does is it separates you from what you want the most. To be accepted, to be known, to get genuine intimacy, to be your true self.
Accepting To Easily
Since you’re afraid to take risks and not going for what you want, you convince yourself that your boring life, your drab relationship, your mundane job, is as good as it gets.
This because fear is running the show, you forget your dreams. You compromise by convincing yourself that you’re being realistic. Settling for less isn’t realism, it’s fear holding you hostage.
When Yes Means No
You don’t want to disappoint others or feel rejected so you say “yes.” You fall into the trap of people pleasing, a behavior which always leads to resentment.
Once overcoming fear, you then begin saying no if it’s self defeating. After all, it’s been said that the single word “No” is a complete sentence.
What this doesn’t mean is that you’re being selfish, that you won’t donate yourself to service. It means that this service is based on love rather than fear.
When No Means Yes
When in fear, you won’t take risks. You want to start your own business, date that dream person, do something dramatic out of the ordinary.
But you say no because of the fear of failure, or you’re afraid to succeed, afraid that you’ll get rejected or create a ruckus. You’re afraid to exit your comfort zone.
But once you dismiss fear, then you’ll begin to let your soul take the lead, begin to take action, take leaps of faith, say yes when you want to.
To Dissolve Addiction
What fear causes is inner turmoil, a soul sickness which disguises itself as anxiety, hopelessness, helplessness, restlessness, loneliness, depression, then ultimately fatigue.
To mask this inner pain, you soothe yourself in addiction and other mind numbing behavior. What this does is it places a temporary emotional band-aid on the pain, which only stimulates the low self-esteem.
Once you decide to escape this, fight the inner demons, heal yourself from the core, then you’ll no longer need the vices of overeating, alcohol, painkillers, workaholism, or any other distraction.
Once you feel the fear of failure, avoid success, criticism, uncertainty, rejection, or being judged, you hide under the guise of procrastination where you feel safe.
Once you begin facing your fears, then motivation replaces procrastination. You’re no longer acting on fear, but on love and service, because you can, because that’s what you were born to do.
Paralysis By Analysis
When scared, you avoid making the decisions you know you need to make. Your intuition tells you to leave that bad relationship or job, stop that addiction, but you’re petrified to do so.
But once you overcome fear, you’ll discover that it’s this uncertainty which creates the opportunity to any possibility, then anything can happen.
Stop Being A Control Freak
Fear dictates you micromanage everything because you feel you’re living in a hostile world which is out to get you, so you choose to control your life and the life of others.
You don’t have the faith that the universe is bigger than you are, that life is grateful, that everything that happens grows your soul somehow, even if it doesn’t feed your ego.
Once you make the jump from fear to hope, have faith in the universe, you’ll then begin to relax. You’ll surrender to the flow, accept whatever happens, and enjoy what life has in store for you.
You Deprive Yourself
Fear controls you so you don’t speak up. You won’t stand up for yourself or what you believe in.
You won’t allow to be heard even if your integrity becomes threatened, when you’re feelings are hurt. You’ll never ask for what you want.
But once you take a stand, feed yourself, allow your beliefs to flow through you, then you begin attracting those who resonates with your word.
You Get Sick
What the emotion of fear does is it triggers stress, which then activates the risk of disease and illness. Constant fear then makes it harder for the body to heal itself.
What stress will initially produce are mild symptoms such as low energy, insomnia, headaches, backaches, the common cold, and then it will graduate.
Those living in constant fear are likely to attract cardiovascular diseases, autoimmune diseases, inflammatory disorders, diabetes, body pain, and they become chronic.