What’s known is that opposites will attract. It’s an electromagnetic occurrence which occurs naturally. It’s thought there that are a set of unwritten rules, this when it comes to the attraction process. Because we live in a world full of strangers, there are a series natural laws which brings individuals together.
Is this attraction just a matter of chemical reaction, where there’s spontaneous combustion. What’s know for certain, this when it comes to the animal kingdom, is that the opposite sex is naturally attracted to each other because of certain chemicals that brings them together, this by instinct.
It’s the chemicals known as pheromones, is what attracts and results in communication among the same species. The awful odor emitted by skunks, which wards off enemies is also a type of pheromone.
Certain animal species, since they can’t wine and dine like humans can, are subject to the existence of these chemicals for potential mating.
A Chemical Romance
What experts claim when it comes to animals, is that the females will instinctively send out these seductive chemical aromas, this to alert the male of their species that they’re ready, that their genes are different from theirs, and they don’t have a headache.
This gene diversity becomes important when it comes to producing strong offspring with better chances of survival, which prolongs the species while avoiding extinction.
What the perfume industry has done is capitalized on pheromones as a selling feature, claiming they’ll increase one’s sexual attractiveness to the opposite sex. As a result, animals such as musk deer and whales have been hunted, just to extract these chemicals.
What’s been researched is the influence that human pheromones has, which is smelly body odor, and the potential role that it plays when it comes to mate selection.
What results are a variety of conflicting opinions, this from various genetics, biological, chemical, and psychological viewpoints.
What many would assert is that it doesn’t make a difference, that the “senses” of humans just isn’t strong enough. Even if they were, they don’t play enough of a significant role when it comes to sexual attraction between a man and a woman.
The latest research however is slowly altering this opinion, that certain chemical influences can make a difference, and those viewpoints should be reconsidered.
I Smell You
One experiment involved women during their ovulation period, were asked to sniff cotton shirts which were worn by different men.
What was found, is that what women preferred were distinct odors of these shirts, which were genetically different, but shared similarities with their own genes.
The reason for this instinctive reaction is what also occurs in insects and mammals, and that’s to increase the odds of producing healthy attractive offspring.
What the researchers warned was that the preferences for a males particular odor, can be affected because of the women’s ovulation period, the food that the men ate, the cologne or deodorants used, and the use of contraceptive pills.
Personality And Sexual Attraction
What also influences the perceptions or preference is a potential mate’s personality. This is where the human species separates itself from the animal kingdom.
Along with personality, what a person who’s attracted to another also senses is high self-confidence and high self-esteem, which has proven to be strong indicators, this when it comes to the attraction selection process.
Dig You More
So what this does is this tell us that what we humans prefer is a certain personality type, which along with looks, is what attracts us to a certain person, and not to someone else.
Aside from the actual perceived personality of the person, which can only be verified through getting to know that person with close interaction over time, is the “perception” of the potential partner, which attracts you to them.
Whether that person of your affection happens to have that particular type of perceived personality or not, is the most commonly stated reason why relationships will fail. That he or she was thought to be of a certain personality type, but wasn’t.
Is Physical Attraction Important In Relationships
What most have heard is that physical attraction is just a prelude, one of the factors towards what makes a relationship work.
Most likely, at least initially, physical attraction itself isn’t able to make relationships work long term. It’s also the person’s aura, that makes one take notice of someone of the opposite sex. As you begin to know them better, how they look then just becomes a consideration.
What’s more important are similar values, dreams, and shared passions which becomes more paramount as the relationship grows, if it’s to move forward and last.
Looking As Attractive As Possible
What’s more important than looking as physically attractive as possible, is working on all areas of your persona, which includes your health, mental, emotional, and spiritual being.
Physical attractiveness however remains the precursor. Keep in mind that it’s biology that predisposes us to choose the partner who we instinctively think has the healthiest genes.
Once emotions become involved, determine if you would want to spend time with someone who’s constantly insecure about themselves, but extremely pretty or handsome. Most likely not.
There’s advantages in knowing who you are, what your beliefs, dreams and values are. Never pretend to be someone you’re not. Deceiving another person, this by making them think that you have lots in common, only leads to disappointment.
When you are healthy, you’re then attractive as a consequence. What ultimately becomes the most important is a person’s personality, as it becomes more essential that being attractive.
Keep in mind to accomplish these things for yourself, and not for others. This is when you can completely harness your attractiveness as a person.