There are some who are universally liked, they have a certain charisma, certain qualities which naturally attracts others to adore them. Then there are others, a certain group of individuals, who are not really liked that much, perhaps someone you know.
This can prove important since it can impact your chances for opportunities or success. There’s a perception that those who are likable are considered more hardworking and trustworthy. Those who aren’t liked, are thought as being arrogant and manipulative.
Not being liked reaches beyond what their physical appearance is, such as being standoffish, how they dress, the aura they project, this before a word is spoken.
You’re A Control Freak
So what if you’re the boss or you’re rich, you’re still in command of your behavior. If you’re constantly attempting to control others in all situations, that your points and opinions always supersedes others, that’s awfully insecure.
Realize that this sense of control is short term, this because what it requires is force or fear, some type of authority or pressure to administer, nothing that should make you feel better about yourself.
You Always Blame Others
What everyone does is wrong. Employees, employers, spouses don’t meet your expectations. Anyone hardly ever delivers on time, so what you do is constantly blame them for these blunders.
Realize that you’re also to blame. Maybe you didn’t provide clear instructions or enough training. Learn to take responsibility once things go wrong, this instead of blaming others. Why not just plan better or smarter the next time.
Always Trying To Impress
You think no one likes you because of what you wear, your car, who you’re married to, your title, or what you’ve accomplished. On the other hand, realize that people may like what you own, but that doesn’t mean they like you.
Superficial is insubstantial, and relationships aren’t based on substance. Real relationships which are genuine, you don’t need to impress anyone with what you own, so just be yourself.
You’re Just Clingy
Once you become afraid or insecure, what you default back to is what’s familiar, which may always not be the best for you. Everyone can detect when you’re insecure and nervous, and will avoid you.
Hanging on to what you think you need also won’t make you happier, so instead, let it go so you can reach for what you really want. Even if you don’t succeed, just the act of trying will make you feel better about yourself.
You Constantly Interrupt
Interrupting is annoying and rude. Once you interrupt, what you’re saying is, “I’m not listening and I don’t care what you’re saying,” or “I’m not listening because I’m deciding what to say next,” which means whatever you say isn’t important.
If you want others to like you, pay attention by always listening to what they say. Focus on what they mean and then respond back in kind. Ask questions so you’ll understand what they said, proving to them you’re listening.
You Complain Too Much
Words have extreme weight, this especially if you constantly whine about your problems, which makes everyone else feel worse and not better.
Once something goes wrong, don’t waste your time by complaining. Instead, put that energy into correcting or making the situation better. No one cares about your constant whining, as everyone has their own issues they’re attempting to solve.
Never talk about what’s wrong, but instead how you can make things better, and this self talk begins with yourself. Also avoid those who are constantly complaining, by being a shoulder to cry on.
You Constantly Criticize
So what if your more educated, smarter, wealthier, prettier, better off than others. You may of been around the block a few more times, but that doesn’t give you the right to judge or criticize others.
Being more accomplished makes you more unique than others, you’re one of a kind, but that’s where it ends. Everyone is facing their own issues that you know nothing about, so cut them a bit of slack by not criticizing them.
Everyone is trying to get better and not worse, they’re just on a different level than you are. Appreciate the differences instead of their shortcomings, and you’ll be more appreciated.
You Constantly Lecture
Criticizing has an evil twin and that’s lecturing, which are both forms of judgment. The more accomplished you become, the more that you think you’re better, that you know more, is when you begin telling others what to do.
Once you begin speaking with more finality than foundation, all that everyone hears is you dictating, so they won’t listen.
You Dwell To Much
The past is over. It’s only value is learning from the mistakes you’ve made, so let everything go, which includes all of your victories.
Once something bad happens, see it as an opportunity to learn something. When someone else makes a mistake, be kind and understanding, learn to forgive. Mistakes aren’t made on purpose.
You can’t define the past unless you learn from the mistakes that you’ve made, while not making the same mistake twice, otherwise it becomes a decision. Think about what went wrong, and then make it right.
You Show Fear
Once you show fear of the past or present, what may or may not happen, you’re showing this fright to others. So hesitate, put on a brave face, know all the facts, and come up with alternatives.
Never allow fear to hold you back. Whatever you’ve planned, imagined, dreamed of, forget what could go wrong, take the first step.
If you’re wanting to get better, place your fears aside and just get started. Do something, anything, this by taking action. Anticipate making mistakes and never allow fear to overrule your ambition.