How The First 5 Minutes Instantly Reveals Your Personality

first five minutes meeting someoneSo there you are, you’re nervous as heck, as if you’ve never done this before, you’re meeting someone for the first time. Whether it be a romantic date or a business meeting, your initial reaction, usually subconsciously, reveals what your true personality is.

From the exact moment that two people meet, what they do is immediately and instinctively size each other up, this before a word is ever spoken. What we do is look for signs, clues, for qualities such as intelligence, honesty, altruism, or how aloof they appear.

This could be any situation where strangers meet. An anxiety fueled blind date, a job interview, closing that deal, all the small mannerisms count a great deal. From how firm the handshake is, to how often one looks away or blinks.

What’s isolated are the small gestures, the nuances which stands out, this in the attempts to make a good first impression.

So what are these subtle details that we give off, which reveals our individual personality. What are the most common behaviors that others use to judge you, and how you judge them.

That Fishy Handshake
What a handshake mirrors are characteristic traits, this on how we reveal ourselves, how we’re feeling inside at that exact moment in time.

What most will do is instantly grade someone based on their handshake, as that’s usually the first point of contact other than the initial “Hello.”


Firm handshakes will usually reveal a person of strong confident character. Handshakes that are weak, limp, cold and moist, indicates a lack of confidence.

What research shows is that your handshake gives away certain areas of your personality instantly. Someone with a firm grasp is a person likely to be extroverted, expressing their emotions outwardly, and not neurotically.

Making Eye Contact
A limp handshake along with not making eye contact does is it displays poor self control, not being able to follow through, while displaying weak willpower.

What extroverts will do is look directly, deeply and often, usually gazing for longer periods of time when talking or listening to others, than introverts will.

Generally, those who look more often at the people that they’re with, are usually more socially dominant, gregarious, and confident.

How Prompt Are You
Are you running a few minutes late for an extremely important meeting. As the seconds tick by, the person who’s waiting, is instantly forming a negative impression on you.

Most people who are proactive will show up on time, this because they’re self-motivated, courteous, organized, and they value your time and theirs.

Those who procrastinate are generally not that organized, and as a result will usually be running late. Their mind is erratic and confused at the last minute, and then they lose track of their time and become late.

According to research, those who are chronically late aren’t necessarily inconsiderate, but are most likely just laid-back, and not a go getter, more the “Type B” personality.

How You Treat Others
The initial reveal, this when on a first date or a business lunch, is how you treat the restaurant staff or the doorman. What keen observers will do is pay extreme attention to how you interact specifically with the “help.”


Some claim that they’ll never date someone again, who’s rude to the restaurant staff, as that’s a “tell” on how they themselves, will most likely be treated in the future.

This is why some job interviewers will perform senior position interviews over lunch. They’ll closely obverse how they interact, this to determine if they’re “executive” material or not.

This is the first clue on how sincere you are as a person, so even though you’re nice to them, you’re rude or standoffish to someone serving the food.

Where You Look
What’s closely observed is where you look when you take a sip of water. If you look directly into your glass, you are introspective, idealistic, focused, and extremely self-aware.

Someone who happens to look over the rim are more influenced, conscious of others, more extroverted and carefree, and generally more open and trusting.

A person who briefly closes their eyes while taking a drink, has stress issues, be in some type of discomfort or pain, and is previously preoccupied.

If You Fidget
Such as biting your nails or stroking your hair. Whenever someone happens to be constantly chewing their nails, that’s a sign that they’re “eating” away at themselves.

What research shows is that nail biters, or those who picks at their skin, or pulls their hair, are usually perfectionists, while unable to completely relax.

Your Handwriting
This usually won’t apply in the first five minutes of meeting someone, but how you stroke your pen when writing a grocery list or a love note, says a lot about your personality.

It’s found that those who places extreme pressure on the tip of their pen on paper when writing, are usually more stubborn in attitude, while also having greater confidence.

This is a science in itself, as graphologists will tell you that writing larger words indicates that you’re a people person, while writing small compact words suggests you’re introverted.

Words on paper where the writing slants forward, can mean that you’re friendly and progressive. Words written straight up means you’re pragmatic, while words which are slanted backwards suggests you’re introspective.

How Often You’re Distracted
You look around erratically or are constantly checking your phone, this when you’re alone or with someone. If you’re constantly refreshing your Twitter or checking others out, then you’re needlessly anxious.

What research shows is that constantly being distracted, is a sign that you may not be that emotionally stable, and what you’re looking for is a boost in your spirit.

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