Some will constantly feel sad about themselves, and not know the reasons why. What then happens is they’ll sit alone quietly in a room full of people, speaking very little, being socially aloof.
They don’t laugh, when there’s a genuinely funny situation. What’s found is there’s a myriad of triggers that causes this sadness, which flies under the conscious.
What’s usually developed are coping strategies, mechanisms to help them hide, blend in with the rest of society somehow, while they’re constantly suffering under the surface. What they’ll flash are the fake smiles, telling everyone everything’s fine, while they have internal turmoil.
8. May Be Looking For Closure
Those who feel sad, are often trapped by haunting secrets of the past, which could be personal wrongdoings, or poor decisions they’ve previously made, and they’re only to blame.
This could be some type of painful or traumatic event that happened to them, which they constantly dwell on, making them feel sad and down.
These could be painful events, which may never been healed or properly addressed, making it difficult for them to project that “perfect-life” they’re attempting to display. With all of these bad feelings bubbling underneath the surface. They can’t move forward, and be grateful for their life.
7. Sudden Outbursts Of Anger
What’s associated with being sad is apathy and listlessness, stemming from a variety of emotions that are simmering and volatile. There are certain symptoms, which often goes undetected or are dismissed as being temporary emotional outbursts.
These emotions could be someone suddenly becoming irritable or angry. The angry behavior is often acknowledged as moodiness, and not considered an issue, but it could be a sign of a storm that’s brewing underneath the persona.
What’s known is that these irritable or angry outbursts, especially if they’re sudden and unexpected, are often manifestations of depression.
6. Are Often Control Freaks
Those who suffer from being sad and hides it, has a need to constantly prove themselves. What they worry about is every detail, making it difficult to enjoy the experience in a stress-free manner. What they feel is a responsibly to always be right, to always be in control, this to furnish their low self-esteem.
For instance, they claim they love to cook, but has a difficult time sitting down and enjoying the meal with their guests, constantly being sensitive to any criticism, watching every move.
The need for control is extreme, while plenty of time is spent worrying about losing that control.
5. Often A Perfectionist
One of the traits of someone who’s constantly sad, is they have a perfectionist personality. What most people will strive for is to do their best, this so they can do well in their occupation or task at hand. Those who are depressed, will elevate this perfectionism to unhealthy levels.
Those who constantly and secretly feel sad, will berate themselves that they’re not good enough, not the best, not on top at all times. When doing their job or hobby, what they expect is perfection every time.
These instances could be being the perfect mom, best lawyer or marketer, best child to their aging parents.
4. Appetite Can Waver
One of the key indicators of someone being chronically sad, is it affects their appetite, resulting in abnormal eating habits. What experts claim, is that there’s a definitive link between eating disorders and depression. What’s also now connected, is how gut-bacteria can affect mental health.
Others claim that sadness and eating disorders are two distinct illnesses, but one may lead to the other. Eating disorders, are also thought to be more prevalent in men.
The reason being that women will change their eating patterns because of their weight, while men are usually just depressed. So be aware of appetite changes.
3. Masked With Other Behaviors
They’ll appear to be happy and well adjusted, hold down a good job while being a reliable and loving parent and friend, even though it’s extremely difficult for them to do so. What they’ve developed are coping mechanisms, misleading others to believe that they’re happy extroverted lovers of life.
What’s known is that having a sense of humor, being a comedian, is often a mask to cover their sadness. What doing so does is takes the attention away from their illness, by making others feel good.
Some will constantly talk, or place the needs of others ahead of their own, while not focusing on their own well-being.
2. Displays Too Much Empathy Towards Others
Those who are sad, goes overboard displaying concern for the well-being of others, more than they should, more than they will for themselves. This way, it doesn’t allow others to see their hurt. This empathy towards others is also completely sincere, as they genuinely care more about the people around them, than they do about themselves.
Sad people will constantly deflect any signs that they may need help, dismissing or discouraging anyone who has an empathetic ear, by telling them they’re fine. There’s a wall that they build around themselves, protecting them from anyone who thinks they’re lonely, depressed, or fatigued.
1. Often In Denial
Those feeling sad, will find ways to convince themselves along with others, that’s how they are, that’s how they’re wired. To find and justify the reasons for they feeling down, which can eventually lead to depression.
What’s available to measure one’s depressive state, are self-regulated tests that they can take on the Internet, at no cost. They’re self regulated, because they usually don’t want anyone else to see their results, to find out their degree of sadness. The key is just being honest.
There are many however, who are in constant denial about their condition, and as a result, won’t answer the questions truthfully. This becomes a slippery slope, since they then can’t find the reasons why they feel sad, because they constantly deny it.