A Guideline On Reading People What To Look For When Gawking

watching how others actWe spend inordinate amounts of time waiting in line, fiddling our thumbs sipping coffee, bored while waiting at the dentists office. During these times we watch others, as there are limited options on what we can do, so we inspect the actions of people.

Invariably, what we do is study their exact movements, nuances, this to pass the time. What we do is judge those who are in our space, our field of vision. We instantly decide whether they’re smarter or dumber than us, better dressers, or if they’re more attractive than we are.

What we do is create a storybook about them, what it’s like to know them, this strictly on how they present themselves. This based on their facial expressions, how they sit or talk, what they’re doing, as our inner detective analyzes all of their actions.

Who Are You
What we have is this innate ability to draw conclusions about others from their posture, their subtle actions, all usually on instinct. We begin to create clues on who they are, even without ever knowing them.

Experts claim that have this down to a science, so why not take advantage of better people watching. This by refining your skills in areas where you can place more attention on, this by knowing what to look out for once someone dares to inhabit your personal space.

What They Look Like
The first thing you’ll notice is what they’re wearing, particularly their dress when they’re not huddled in their overcoats. Everyone has a favorite piece of clothing, such as an old t-shirt, hat, or sports regalia, telling everyone who they are.

This could be where they’re from, their favorite sports team, college campus, a scream out of their identity. By they choosing to dress themselves in this attire, they’re announcing to anyone who cares, this is me, this is the image I’m wanting to portray.


There are those who’ll don designer duds, showing off that they’re affluent or trendy. People will reveal their identities for everyone to see, that they’re hip, cosmopolitan, or sophisticated.

Another indicator are tattoos signifying what they’re identity is, this in a more permanent manner. They’ll honor someone or something, their personal brand. A tattoo is a permanent stamp on the body meaning they’re serious about their uniqueness.

Showing Self-esteem
How people act indicates how they feel about themselves. Effortless good posture, shoulders pinned back, head held high, that swagger in their walk, communicates that they’re cocksure, strong, and extremely pleased with themselves. There’s nothing to hide.

It’s also possible that certain people will convey a sense of haughtiness when holding their head high, so that their arrogance looks down on others. Conversely, those who slouch, look down or away, shuffle their feet while walking, tells the world that they’re insecure with self-doubt.

A person who may have narcissistic tendencies are usually revealed by their extreme attention towards their dress and grooming. From tip to toe, they’re perfectly matched with perfect hair to spit polish shoes.

Those who pay extreme attention towards their appearance are announcing to the world that they’re better than you, while they consider themselves worth every second of time that they spend on grooming themselves.

Emotional State Of Mind
One of the first judgments that we make about others, this based on their appearance, is what their emotional state of mind is.

This is reflected in their face, their gaze, as you can calculate what their feelings are from their stance, how they walk, the command of their hands.

Those who are nervous will fidget, shrug their shoulders, jerk their head from side to side. They may clutch their purse or briefcase, or cross their arms, symbolizing that they’re protecting themselves from harm.

Stress also shows similar signs of angst, appearing like they’ve got the weight of the world on their shoulders, and they will sag accordingly.


Their state of preoccupation also carries over in their obsession with their smartphones, for instance, this rather than watching people unfolding and revealing themselves around them.

Those who are depressed or in a bad mood will expose themselves with a sad dour facial expression. You can monitor their state of emotion by how slow or awkward they walk.

When depressed, what most don’t feel like doing is moving quickly, and that’s reflected in their gait. Those who are happy will gallop briskly, revealing a subtle skip in their step.

They Look Genuinely “Nice”
One of the personality traits of agreeableness is a general aura of friendliness, an air of warmth, the ability to roll with the punches. Those who expresses these traits, will do so by showing it in their nonverbal behavior and actions.

What they’ll do is smile at you, hold the door open for you, allow you to go ahead of them in a lineup. What they have is a way of displaying a genial method of ambling around comfortably in their environment.

If They’re Extroverted
They’re always ready to engage with others, they hate being alone, as they regenerate energy by becoming stimulated from their immediate environment. Extroverts are apparent everywhere.

They’re the ones who’ll engage in eye contact, or they’ll initiate conversation with anyone who passes by. Instead of playing wallflower, they’re experts at “working the crowd,” this whether at a party, work, or walking down the street. They’re always ready to pounce their friendliness on you, whether you like it or not.

Extroverts will dress like a peacock, brightly. What most will do is dress according to what their mood for the day is, while extroverts will wear their personality on their sleeves, as their attire will be loud at all times, regardless of how they feel.

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