You Need To Find And Complete Yourself First Before Love Comes
Smitten is one upon first meeting someone. Graced with the sparks that the feeling is mutual and potentially eternal. But why then is it so difficult to keep these juices flowing long term, when it comes to keeping sustainable everlasting relationships.
Why does that momentum, the once mercurial rise of affection in the relationship slow down, and then comes to a standstill. Is it inevitable that any love affair after a certain period of time, that the initial freshness will turn into doom, devastating boredom.
Or what can be worse is that two individuals who were first in love, ends up absolutely despising each other to the point of destruction. Real love should be constructive, supportive, and grow.
So the key appears to be love yourself first, love your dreams, love your mission, and surely enough, that wonderful person to fulfill your grace will show up, and love you back equally if not more.
The Lifespan Of The Living
Everything that’s living has a certain lifespan, a cycle, imagine a blossoming red juicy plum, which will eventually transform itself into a wrinkled dried-up prune. It has taken its course, the freshness and vitality completely gone.
Its life has completely evaporated, while the exterior shell is still there, its innards are depleted. All the pleasure, the fun, the love is gone, what remains is just vinegar.
That Beginning Of The Relationship
In the beginning of any relationship, the juices activate and flows rapidly throughout the body, and are electrified by the attention and interest of meeting that someone new.
Everything becomes vivid, you blossom, your body becomes fulfilled with that attention on you. This is the ultimate form of human energy, and this energy is what makes you flow. This makes every cell in your body tingle.
Your ideal romantic relationship is based on you depending on this energy which is provided by someone else, this other half, rather than you sourcing it out yourself. But realize you don’t need this “other half” to be just as happy and productive.
Realize to be complete, being an entire person, you need to learn how to activate your masculine as well as feminine energy, and vice verse. This balance is what makes you complete, this so love can last forever.
An Energy Crisis
Once you begin to depend too much on the energy of your other half, you’ll feel the need to possess, or be possessed by this person to fulfill your daily energy needs.
When you’re not able to balance and establish your own energy, you’ll then feel the need to control the other person, this in order to get the energy that you can’t generate yourself.
This can become tragic. This since what you need to do is control that person at all times. Then one day, they’ll just begin to give their energy to someone else, depriving you, then what will you to do.
You would most likely begin to collapse, while you get desperate to stay in control. To “control” is possession of what’s not yours, and becomes a process of reducing that other person to be an object. They’re no longer seen as human, but something that needs to be manipulated.
Don’t Be A Control Freak
In the end, you know you can’t control someone else, and thinking that you can doesn’t give you peace of mind. You’ll then be continually subjected to anxiety, which turns into fear and anger.
Every time that you feel you’re losing control, your anger will appear, you’ll throw a tantrum, this in the attempts to gain back that control. No relationship can withstand this type of pressure, so it will collapse. Then you end up alone.
The Staying Game
What you then do is begin this cycle all over again with someone new. So how do you stop this merry go round and create a love that lasts. Begin by concentrating on yourself, rather than on someone else.
Make sure that you focus on what your mission on this earth is, on what’s most important to you, then you’ll be filled with self sustaining energy.
Know Who You Are First
You need to first find out how to become a complete balanced person, this all by yourself. The only way is finding what your purpose in life is, what your passions are, and then focus on this at all times.
Set attainable goals for yourself and then do everything that you can to reach them. Stick to your dreams, this before meeting someone new again. Remain that person and be that person, this instead of clinging on to someone else.
Keep your dreams alive, be loyal to your relationship, never give what you don’t have. If you can’t be loyal to yourself, how can you be loyal to someone else. If you lose yourself, then you’ll lose the relationship again.
Someone who really loves you will love you back even more if you’re being true to yourself. Someone who won’t love you because you follow your dreams, isn’t worth being loved by you.
If your partner gets angry because you want to achieve your goals, then they’re not being supportive. If they become jealous because you have success and they don’t, then that’s their problem.
Be True To Yourself
Don’t ever lose yourself in the arms of another, always stick to yourself, and then your love will last. Focus on the reason why you’re here, make it a first priority mission in your life, then you’ll be loved for who you are.
This is real love that’s supportive. Love your dreams, your life, and then that wonderful person will show up and love you back. If you’re already in the energy of love, then you’ll attract the love from someone who’s currently outside of your life.