Neighbors will seldom say “Hi” to each other, or get to know one other. Co-workers will rarely say a word, other than giving a nod of acknowledgment. How much richer and rewarding would our lives be, if we all took a moment to greet each other, and develop positive relationships.
We humans at times can be our own worst enemy. Despite all of our kind and helpful intentions, we constantly shoot ourselves in the foot, this when attempting to reach out and know someone. What arises are instant dislike towards others, this based on blind judgment such as gender, race, on how someone looks or acts.
There’s always dislike towards others and we choose to ignore them, this once a lack of respect is shown towards us. As advanced as we think we are, what we display is a lack of mutual respect.
How We Learned To Develop Relationships
How we learned to develop and maintain positive relationships with others, began from home when we were young.
If our parents showed love and respect for each other and towards us, we then tended to do the same with our family members. We then took this positive interaction to school, and eventually the work place.
However, if there wasn’t mutual respect and love at home, we developed indifference towards our fellow human beings. This is the reason why, some never know how to display it.
Mutual Respect Goes A Long Way
Respect once demanded, does is results in “defiant compliance,” which is giving it because we have to, this usually under pressure, and not because we want to for the sheer pleasure of it. What this leads to, is counterproductive behavior.
Once respect is earned, positive things will then begin to happen on both sides. The only way to earn respect, is by giving it.
Then not only will you get it back, it will multiply tenfold. The best thing about developing positive relationships, is that it’s never too late to start, despite how dire the situation may appear.
To create an air of mutual respect, start by demonstrating it in your words and actions, show genuine respect for others, which begins with your spouse and children.
The best way to begin, is to filter out all the negative talk, this in yourself and others. Speak only in friendly atmospheres. Your spouse, kids, and co-workers will then be more apt to listen and respond, when acting in this manner.
Have A Little Fun In Your Life
We’re all busy with the demands of work, home, community events, and social obligations. So it becomes easy to overlook one of the most vital aspects of building positive relationships, and that’s having fun.
It doesn’t take as much time and effort as you might think. The benefits come in the quality, and not the quantity of time that you spend with others.
When wanting to spend time with someone who matters, always do something that both of you enjoy. Avoid making it a forced repetitive activity or schedule.
What Encouragement Does Is Creates Cooperation
If we expect others to respond to our requests and wishes, we then first need to believe in ourselves as well as the other person, being capable and willing.
This belief, once expressed in positive and supportive words and actions, does is sends a strong message of encouragement. The other person, then responds quickly, positively, and cooperatively.
Minimize mentioning mistakes, unless it’s a hazardous or dangerous situation, or if it’s towards the weaknesses of that person. Instead, recognize and then acknowledge their effort and strengths.
Show Love In Everything You Say And Do
What’s common in distressed relationships, is that you often hear, “He says that he loves me, but he never shows it.” What she’s actually saying, is that she hears it in words, but not convinced by his actions, or the lack of it.
Keep in mind the adage: “Action speaks louder than words.” Realize that love is both an emotion as well as an action. Just saying it isn’t enough, nor is displaying love by itself.
For the other to feel secure in the relationship, this regardless of the level of intimacy, they need to know, feel, see, and perceive that they’re on the receiving end of love, that the other person truly cares about them.
Expressing love, our care and concern for the other person, is a sense as well as a reaction, which constantly needs to be expressed in words and display.
Often, the expressions which are the most powerful, are the one’s displayed at a time or occasion. when the other person is least expecting it, such as in comments or situations.
Encourage Rather Than Praise
Avoid praising someone, as what doing so does is appears artificial. Instead, give encouragement, as it comes across as being genuine, honest, and caring.
Although mutual respect, love, and having a good time are all vital ingredients, this when it comes to creating positive relationships, it’s always encouragement that’s the trigger.
Know that it’s through encouragement, that we focus on the strengths along with the assets of others. It’s by giving encouragement, that helps them believe in themselves and their abilities, which then helps them to accept as well as learn from their mistakes.
This helps them develop the courage to believe in their intent, imperfections and all. This might also be the “encouragement” they needed, to help them maximize their true undiscovered potential.
There are just a few proven components, when it comes to developing and maintaining positive relationships. Mutual respect, love, having fun, and encouragement.
This is the simple recipe for yourself and others, where positive results will then flourish beyond your wildest expectations.