The Path To True Success Begins By Doing Things Differently
There are always certain barriers that are present which creates an uphill struggle in whatever you attempt, which can impede your ascension towards the success that you want or deserve.
Once these roadblocks are known, there are effective ways to overcome them. It begins with knowing what they are, then having the motivation to do something about it.
The biggest question you may have is, why are there are some individuals, perhaps a friend or coworker, who are constantly able to achieve success, to win, while others, perhaps you, under the same circumstances and situation, will continuously fail.
The reason, this based on social science research experts is because these seemingly “successful” people from the outset demand and expect success, and will do everything that they can to overcome all of the barriers which are generally attributed to failure.
So listed are a few of these “roadblocks” which may be holding back one’s path to success, and the proven systematic ways on how they can be corrected and then capitalized on:
Poor Or Unfocused Goal Setting
Once the majority of individuals set out goals, they’ll usually envision a desired object, most commonly wads of cash, or something tangible such as a brand new car.
It could also be reaching a specific achievement, such as writing a book. But these aren’t actual goals, but rather things that you want or are going to get, or do.
Making these goals actually doesn’t appeal to the basic core of whatever motivates you, this because you’re completely missing the point, which is, what you’re seeking in your life or work, and the positive emotional result that you believe it should produce.
Solution: Instead of envisioning something that’s “tangible” as your goal, rather envision how you’ll actually feel when you reach that goal. This way, you’ll be inspired enough to do whatever it will take, within bounds, to reach that goal.
The Fear Of Failing
Most are simply just afraid to fail, scared they may fall flat on their face and get embarrassed. So because of this, they won’t take any risks, no chances, no calculated “leaps of faith,” that’s required to achieve something.
For instance, you avoid making that important phone call, this since you’re afraid that you’ll be rejected. Or you don’t want to quit your lousy dead-end job that you absolutely hate, and begin your own business, this because you’re afraid you won’t succeed and will use up all of your money.
Solution: You need to decide right now that any type of failure is strictly a temporary condition. If something doesn’t go the way that you want, it’s only a setback which just delays your eventual success.
So just expect to fail at times as it’s a numbers game, and make sure that you treat the failure as unavoidable, but a vital cog and an important learning step which brings you closer to your goal.
The Fear Of Success
It’s often viewed that the fear of success can at times be more debilitating than failing. Suppose that you’ve achieved something that’s spectacular, such as earning enormous wealth.
What would you do if it didn’t make you as happy as you though it would, what would you do then. What if you ended up losing it all in a few short years. If you do become wealthy, would your friends and family begin acting weird or become envious.
All of these thoughts, which are common when attributed to the fear of success, will at times even cause the most successful or highly motivated person to self sabotage and question themselves.
Solution: Just decide beforehand that you’re going to be grateful and happy in the future, regardless of what happens. So rather than focusing on the potential problems, envision how great it would be if you’re able to help out your family and friends when they’re in need, or help them achieve their goals.
Setting Up Unrealistic Time Schedules
Most will just under/over estimate what they’re capable of doing. As a result, they’ll cram way too much or too little into their “to-do” list for the following week, or completely underestimate what they’re capable of doing over a span of a year.
When they attempt to do way too much in a short period of time, and then can’t get them done because of a misjudgment in time, they’ll usually get discouraged, resulting in the feeling that they’ve failed, and the goal is slipping away.
Solution: Begin by listing down a workable “to-do” list, along with the steps which are required to achieve that goal, and then set reasonable time limits on them.
Make sure that you also set ambitious but reasonable goals on longer time frames, and always leave a bit of wiggle room if your plan temporarily falls short.
Getting Worried About Not Getting Ahead
It can get discouraging once you reach a certain point, where anything that you do doesn’t appear to propel you towards your final goal.
For instance, say that you’re attempting to master or refine a certain skill. You initially make progress in the beginning, but then shortly after, you begin spinning your wheels, don’t get any better, or you retract. Some individuals will use these dry spells as an excuse to just give up, resulting in a failed attempt.
Solution: If you happen to reach one of these dry spells, it’s then time to celebrate what you’ve accomplished, rather than giving up. Reaching a plateau indicates that you’re usually on the brink of a major win or breakthrough. So just have the patience to hang in there and trust that you’re doing the right thing, and you will eventually reach your goal.