They’re the life of the party, the light that illuminates a dark cloudy room. They radiate, sprinkling their energy and confidence. What they have, this regardless of what they lack, is a glow from their brilliant magnetic personality. Everyone is attracted to these authentic beings.
Even those who may be skeptical of people or things, will find themselves enamored and overtaken by these charming souls. They’re the ones you turn to for advice, for help, a story, for companionship. You can’t get enough of them, as you’re left gasping in wonder. “What is it they have that I don’t?” “What makes them so dynamic?”
The key difference it’s their high sense of self-worth, which illuminates from within. Authentic people never search for validation, this because they have the confidence to find it in themselves. What they have are certain habits, this to maintain this perspective.
Being so irresistible, becoming authentic isn’t the result of getting lucky. It’s more a matter of learning then adopting the habits of these individuals, this so you can apply them for your own benefit. Then you can become more authentic and lovable yourself.
They Respect Everyone
Whether they’re interacting with a client, “Liking” on Facebook, or they’re a server taking your dinner order, these authentic people are constantly and unfailingly polite and respectful to everyone.
They understand that regardless of how nice they come across to the person they’re sharing coffee with, it’s all for naught if that person ever happens to witness them behaving badly towards someone else.
What they do is treat everyone with complete respect, this because they know they’re no better than anyone else.
They Know The “Platinum Rule”
Know that “Treat others as you would like to be treated,” has a major flaw: What it’s assuming is that everyone wants to be treated the same way.
What it ignores is that people are motivated differently. One person might love public recognition, while someone else dislikes being the center of attention.
What the Platinum Rule does is treats others as they’d want to be treated, which fixes that flaw. Authentic people are experts at reading people, and they’ll adjust their style and behavior to make others feel comfortable.
Authentic People Don’t Gossip
It becomes impossible to have an emotional reaction from forming when having a conversation, this when conducting “small talk.”
When approaching others with small talk systematically, what doing so does is places their brains on autopilot, which prevents them from having any type of real affinity with you.
What authentic people will do is create a connection, and will find depth even in short everyday conversations. Because they’re genuinely interested in others, it’s easy for them to ask relevant questions, this since they’re able to relate to what the other is saying.
Focus On People Not Things
What they have is a genuine interest in everyone around them. What they don’t do is spend much time thinking about themselves or things.
They never obsess over if they’re liked, this because they’re too busy focusing on the people that they’re with. That’s what makes their authenticity appear effortless.
To adopt this habit, put down the smartphone and pay attention to those around you. Listen to what they’re saying, and not what your rebuttal is going to be, or how what they’re saying affects you.
Once someone tells you something about themselves, ask them open ended questions, which draws them out more.
Authentic People Can Tell Opinion From Fact
Authentic people can handle sensitive topics with grace and poise. They never avoid sharing their opinions, while making it clear that it’s just an opinion, and not fact.
Whether they’re discussing politics, global warming, or GMO foods, authentic people recognizes that others are just as intelligent as they are, regardless of their viewpoint.
Authentic People Are Genuine
They’re completely transparent. Nobody needs to second guess or wonder what they’re agenda or motive is, or need to predict what they’ll do next. They remain genuine because they know anyone can spot a phony.
People gravitate towards those who are authentic, because they know they can trust them. It becomes difficult not to resist them, this because they know who they truly are, and that they’re being honest.
Authentic People Have Integrity
People who have high integrity are irresistible, this because what they do is walk their talk, they do what they say they will. Integrity is a simple concept, but a difficult thing to do.
Attempt to demonstrate integrity on a daily basis. Those who are irresistible constantly follow through without fail, they avoid talking down or bad about others, and they’ll always do the right thing, this even if it hurts.
Authentic People Always Look Their Best
There’s a massive difference when it comes to being presentable and being vain. Those who are authentic understands that making the effort to look their best, is similar to cleaning their house before their guests arrive.
It’s a sign of respect that they show and have for others. Once they’ve made themselves as presentable as possible, then what they can then do is stop thinking about it.
Authentic People Love Life
Authentic people are always positive and passionate. They never become bored or boring, this because they vision life as an amazing adventure. What they do is approach every moment, every challenge they’re faced with, ones that others want to be a part of.
It’s not that authentic people are problem free, they choose to approach them as temporary setbacks, and not inescapable fate.
Once things go wrong or bad, they’ll remind themselves that it’s just a bad day, and it will pass. They know that tomorrow, next week, or next month will be a lot better.