There you are, sitting alone on another Friday night, your only companionship being a blaring TV, your cat, and cold vegetarian pizza. So you want a romantic relationship. You’re attractive, people like you, yet for a while, you’ve chosen to be alone, to calculate and reevaluate your life.
So how do you take that next step forward from being single, to finding a mate, a partner, a significant other. The slate is now clean, there are no lingering after effects or rebounding from relationships gone awry. You’re refreshed and ready to put yourself out there, to find a date, to find someone, one hopefully that’s everlasting.
The good news is that you can take a clinical approach, and calibrate what you’re looking for this time, based on your personal preferences along with your intimacy goals.
There are ways on how you can initiate a relationship, this with the person of choice. So discover how you can find the love that lasts.
To meet your goals, to not have another worthless evening, take the steps to initiating a relationship targeting who you want, to follow a strategy that you can mix and match like your wardrobe.
Getting Emotionally Involved
This approach may require a bit of polished communication skills. This to “break the ice” by initiating a conversation with someone new. From there, you can create emotional involvement by developing rapport by conversing, this to build attraction.
This strategy however may develop friendship rather than passion and desire. So depending on your relationship goals, what you need is to escape from the friend zone, or avoid it altogether.
Being direct can be an effective strategy, this simply by just asking directly what you want, which can have a high probability of success or failure.
Whether you’re looking for romance or physical intimacy, using a direct approach requires learning to cope with rejection. Having the fortitude to be more persuasive and getting past no.
What approaching a potentially new relationship indirectly, has are its benefits and drawbacks. What it avoids is the risk of rejection like being direct. Conversely, what sending mixed signals can create is confusion.
To be effective at indirect signaling, what needs to be crafted is how to get the persons attention with your subtle behavior, and knowing how to read their body language. Beyond that, there are better persuasive strategies to use.
Change The Setting
Changing the environment, this to initiate romance has been proven as an effective and safe approach. What’s known is that romantic feelings can automatically be altered and triggered, by using different words, images, or lyrics.
What exciting exhilarating activities can do is create attraction. This approach can run into roadblocks however, if either party doesn’t have the confidence to make a move at the right time, this to escalate the relationship.
What’s proven to be most effective, is combining it with direct initiation, or by setting a romantic scene, which indirectly signals a person to make a move.
Such as teasing or joking. This approach often works better to establish a sexual relationship, and as a result, is a strategy that’s favored by pick-up artists, someone looking for a one night stand. This can involve using proven pick-up lines to get attention, this to build attraction.
It can also include playing hard to get, making someone work for your affections. If not mixing the teasing with being friendly however, this tactic can lead to the person feeling manipulated, which reduces the possibility of romance.
Since relationships are essentially social exchanges, people are often attracted to others who are resourceful or connected.
But what “showing off” can come across as is being egotistical and arrogant. The reason for this, is because sharing resources others don’t have, can appear as being manipulative.
If it appears someone is either giving or taking too much, it may appear that there’s an ulterior motive. As a result, it becomes important to structure how you “give” to someone, this by rewarding their good behavior, while building rapport along with gratitude.
The Blind Date
Getting matched by either friends or family, can be one of the more successful strategies when finding a potential partner. This can also be done by networking through social media, or online dating.
Regardless, to completely initiate a relationship, what you’ll eventually have to do is talk to the person on a one-on-one basis, and get to know them. After the initial introduction, what needs to be used are some of the emotional and direct strategies from that point.
What being passive does is takes the emotional risk out of dating. Getting others to react and come to you, takes planning and a lot of work. What this involves is making yourself attractive enough to get noticed, which is an advantage for those who are physically attractive.
What this involves is improving your physical appearance, personality, showing your unique characteristics to get the attention of someone. What you have however is little control over who you’re able to attract.
So it becomes important to fend off and reject unwanted romantic offers, while recognizing compatible ones. Even then, unless you’re extremely pretty or handsome, you’ll need to add additional direct tactics, this to attract the right type of person that you want.
What each of these approaches, this to initiate a relationship has are its benefits and drawbacks. Therefore, it will take some experimenting to find which of the strategies fit’s your style, and meets your goals romantically.
Eventually, what you’ll settle on is a combination, your own unique blend of tactics which will work for you, and help you find the most ideal partner.