We’re conditioned to be outgoing, this to be cool, that being brash will make you more popular. So most won’t admit that they may be an introvert. This because of the perception of what being an introvert carries, that they’re too shy, a bit aloof, and they don’t like people that much.
But realize that introverts just express from the inside out, this rather than just blurting out and reacting to the environment. Introverts are warm loving caring people who are empathetic first. Yet the stigma exists that being an introvert are those who are unsociable, have tendencies to resist or deny themselves of what they want.
You’re beginning to discover that you display the traits of being an introvert yourself, that your personality suggests and complies to be less outgoing, less outer-oriented than once thought.
You Prefer Alone Time
Once you get the opportunity to take a break, you’d rather spend the time catching up on your reading, listening to music, or cruising down the freeway by yourself.
This quiet time is extremely important to get your sense of well-being together, where you generate your best ideas, this more than enjoying social gatherings.
Your most brilliant thinking occurs when you’re alone. You also enjoy meetings and group discussions, but when it comes to developing critical creative solutions, you’d rather take the time alone to work out the details yourself.
What this does is gives you the opportunity to work out the problem, which produces the best results you can be proud of.
You Work Better With Other Independent People
Despite the belief that all introverts are quiet, that they’re incapable of stepping up and running things, when the conditions are right, they can be the best leaders in industry. The group however needs to all be independent thinkers and problem solvers themselves.
This is the ideal environment where the introverted leader can draw the best results, and extract the most potential.
This occurs once the group is given a spark, an idea that’s provided by the leader. If they’re incapable of providing this guidance, then what’s needed is an extroverted leader.
You Stay In The Background In Group Settings
This reminds of when you went to school, where there were others who shot their arms into the air once the teacher asked a question, or needed a volunteer. Extroverts are always ready and eager to please, stand out from the crowd in any academic or social setting.
This is a sure sign you’re an introvert, that you’re more content to just sit back and allow others to take center stage, even if you know the answer. It’s not that introverts are slower, know less than others, they’d just don’t feel a particular need to stand out like a peacock.
Others Ask For Your Opinion
Most introverts are less than likely to volunteer their opinions or give advice in public settings. It could be a family discussion around the dinner table where they appear aloof. What they do is keep their viewpoints to themselves.
What they do is allow the egotistical noisy extroverts to take control and spin their mouth. But since their advice is always highly valued, they’re constantly being asked for their opinion. Their behavior however, sends cues that they’d rather keep their thoughts to themselves.
You Keep To Yourself In Public
Such as wearing headphones on the bus, not observing or caring what others are doing. When you navigate through a busy street, what you avoid is contact of any kind with others.
Not long ago, when wanting to avoid interaction with strangers, you’d just keep your head down, look blankly in front of you, or read a book. Now there’s the option of looking at your smartphone, putting on your earphones, even if the screen is blank or the music is turned off.
You Would Rather Text Or Email Than Talk
You don’t reach out voluntarily to your social circles, this not because of the fear of rejection, but you have other pressing more important things to do.
If you have a few moments to spare, you won’t initiate a call to gossip, just to pass the time away. You won’t even proactively initiate texts or emails, but just rather respond to them.
You avoid situations or jobs which requires you to engage in such outreach, such as a salesperson, or becoming a telemarketing representative. Computer programming is more your thing. You don’t like to be evaluated or be proactive.
By asking someone for something, what you’re doing is running the risk of being told “no,” which you find annoying and demoralizing. If the request is asynchronous, the turn down might be the same, but at least it allows you to save face, and your self-esteem.
The Advantages Of Being An Introvert
You’re less likely to look ridiculous or idiotic, make less social gaffes, such as suddenly insulting someone whose opinion you don’t like or agree with.
Since you like reflecting on your own thoughts, you’re more less likely to get bored when you’re alone, than someone who constantly needs external stimuli.
The risk you face is that others think you’re a snob or that you’re more superior or smarter than they are. So mindfully choosing to be more open in certain situations, can reveal your full personality.
On the other hand, those who are extroverts, continuously expressing what first comes to their mind, can benefit from practicing a little introversion, to insert a filter before reacting.
Drop the ego and see how it feels to not speak first, or have the need to take charge, or constantly offering your opinion. Finding that ideal balance allows you to experience the world in a more reflective manner.