When you’re preparing yourself for positive change, make sure that you keep track of how you self-talk to yourself. Stop talking down to yourself, such as, “Well, I blew it again.” Thoughts and attitudes are where change begins. What thoughts have is the power to control your destiny.
Understand that your thoughts control your emotions, and that your emotions control your actions. What you concentrate on the most, is what happens. If your thoughts happen to focus on failure, then that’s the self-fulfilling prophecy that you’ll get. Decide to change your thoughts, change your focus, then you’ll change your future.
Fortify yourself so that you’re immersed in an environment, where success can grow from success. At times, we think that all this “change your attitude” stuff is great, but it doesn’t turn at the snap of your fingers.
What it takes is a lot of effort to muster the mental and emotional fortitude that’s needed, especially if there’s no support.
To Dig Deep
If you’re having difficulty finding the inspiration to change yourself, then surround yourself with others, along with the things that will give you the motivation you need. Keep in mind that progress comes in spurts.
There’s no sense in waiting for everything to be just right, because that’s never going to happen. Fate isn’t going to just catapult you to the top, without scrapes and bruises.
Often, it’s taking two steps forward and one step back. There will be times, you’ll feel you’re not making forward progress, then you suddenly leap forward.
Change Is Internal
Although change and alteration appears to have similar meaning, they’re not synonymous. Change is driven from within, and governed by the right intentions.
Alteration is based on external factors, what others think, what impresses people, things that will allow you to keep up and appease them.
The trouble is, doing so can cause insecurity which breeds low self-esteem. When you’re feeling low, you won’t feel invigorated and wanting to tackle your weaknesses, as a downward spiral results.
The Need To Change
Never look to others for approval. Once you do, your happiness and success then hinges on their whims, their opinions, and this reliance only leads to a frail emotional existence.
Stop worrying about keeping people happy. You need to concentrate on making yourself happy instead. On the surface, most are open to change, but internally, there’s strong resistance.
When you don’t make the changes you know are necessary, you feel weak and depressed. Once making positive change, you feel you’re in control. Any type of change feels uneasy, so it’s how you perceive and manage that change.
Ways How People Change
Some transitions are more powerful than the others, this when it comes to making conscious everlasting change. What drastic circumstances requires, are drastic measures.
You could have a heart attack, lose your job, or experience other types of personal tragedy. If you didn’t feel compelled to change your situation before, then such events will force you to do so.
How most make change in their life, is slowly and deliberately. Gradual changes like this are more likely to evolve, this through personal relationships or other long-term molding influences.
Then there’s internal change. This can be compelled by both positive and negative factors, where you willfully hit the pause button, to make a conscious transformational decision.
Making Change Permanent
You need to be firmly committed to the change. You need to have reached the point where, in your mind, there’s no other option.
You need to be willing to pay the price for the rewards of the change, and persist even when there are setbacks and doubt.
You need to know where the change is taking you. How is this life transformation going to affect your life, What will the end results be.
One way to alleviate the fear of the unknown, is by doing your due diligence, so you know exactly what to expect. Carefully plan your steps, even if you’ve never been there before.
To Stay On Course
When those who are closest to you, appears to be the most discouraging, remember that they’ve only seen you, the way you’ve been in the past.
They have no experience with the person you’re about to become. Fair or not, it’s only human nature that we are judged, and how we judge others, based on past experiences rather than projections of future potential.
Some may take these sentiments as non-supportive, which can be extremely crushing to their confidence, when going forward.
Always Remain Mindful
What this doesn’t mean, is that you should stop pursuing loving relationships with those around you. You also don’t need to constantly be placing everything on the line, for them to scrutinize.
Why make yourself vulnerable, to those you know aren’t going to cheer you on. It’s just a case of being careful, and wise about who you open up to.
On the other hand, some may find that these naysayers motivates them. Whatever works for you, go for it. Just make sure that you keep the positive energy flowing.
Then Make It A Habit
Many say that establishing a habit takes 21 days, for it to become a habit. What’s recommended, is not using this as a benchmark, that after 21 days you’ll be home free.
If you are able to persist in doing something for 21 days however, then you’re on the right path to achieving success. These wins are important, because what they give you is a sense of what accomplishment feels like.
Know that after experiencing months of consistent commitment, things can still crumble. The key becomes constantly reinforcing your new habits, while holding yourself accountable. This way, you won’t revert back to your old ways.