There was once a famous man, a well known Millionaire of lore who when he was first starting out, was willing to do and pay whatever it took to gain, attain financial success. Any price would be paid including sacrificing marital longevity, which he had many, for a higher priority which was money.
There’s solid evidence that once this individual ended up as a millionaire many times over, after his working life was complete, in his older years, he came to feel remorse in regards to the life priorities that he originally set out as a younger man.
In fact, he wrote in his memoirs: “I hate as well as regret the failures of my marriages. Looking back, I would gladly give up some of the millions I made, for just one successful and lasting marriage.”
Near the end of this gentleman’s life, with all of the prestige along with the massive amounts of wealth he had accumulated, it all meant very little to him, and felt was practically worthless.
When one obviously reaches older age, that’s the time when individuals will reflect back on their lives, look at the choices that they made, the experiences that they’ve had, the sacrifices and the crossroads which were painfull.
For most, what ultimately mattered to them was not the money that they’ve accumulated, but rather the lifelong friendships they were able to bond.
So despite this particular man’s many accomplishments, and there were many, he died full of regret on his mattress made of money.
It may also become a sad story when you reflect back on your life. A rather cautionary tale for those who may of chosen to make a successful career their highest priority, and nothing else really mattered.
To make this strict sacrifice, you’ve relegated potential true loving relationships and friendships, and then issued them towards a lower priority status. It’s at our own peril that we all decide to neglect our relationships.
We or they don’t know what love really is by throwing them the scraps of whatever emotion is left over, after we’ve exhausted our best energy and efforts towards the pursuit of money, and thus have burnt our lives at the workplace. You decide to place your loved ones on the back burner until “later,” when it becomes too late.
The Patience Of The Unloved
Our partners and our kids may be patient during these times of wealth accumulation, but the years turn into decades when we have our noses firmly planted to the grindstone, attempting to build a strong and noble financial foundation.
Even through all of the difficult and the trying of times, and certainly there are trying times, failing to attend or pay attention to the needs of properly maintaining relationships, pretty much guarantees that there will be eventual breakdowns and dysfunction, which increases the likelihood of separation or divorce.
It’s been proven that even the strongest of relationships can and will eventually erode, and at times become irreversible if they’re not able to provide adequate care and attention.
Like any other living organism in life, any relationship requires ongoing nurturing, caring and dedicated attention in order for it to grow and thrive. While it’s possible for tolerance for brief periods of neglect, when in times of crisis, that’s the rare occurrences when the foundation is mutually solid.
The Marital Bliss-less
For those who are experts and comments on marital interaction, they have all stated that the primary failure of relationships, when they go off the deep end of the cliff, is because of simple neglect. This other than any other conflict such as being unfaithful, which may be a consequence.
The strongest of marriages will even have their periods of irreconcilable differences, which on occasion needs to be addressed, and at times they’re not always resolved. The act of constantly addressing as well as acknowledging them respectfully is a bonding act which can strengthen the marital union, even if there’s no true resolution.
When we constantly fail to bring affection in its various forms to our relationships, then the risks which are exposed is far greater than realized. At times, if we see the end nearing, before it becomes too late, if we’re able to act quick enough, we’ll put a stop to it.
Then not only can we potentially save our relationships, but we can also restore it to a higher degree of integrity, as well as trust, which is far greater than anything that’s been previously experienced.
The majority of us has personally experienced how these types of crises can potentially make our relationships stronger, knowing where the exact turning points are, pinpointing where they’ve become fractured, and then correcting them.
Keeping The Focus
In our hyper and quickly accelerating materialistic culture that we live in, it’s easy to just drive ourselves off the road, by becoming easily distracted by the various temptations.
Most of us may become too easily lost in our own obsessive quest for more happiness, and security, and believe what materialistic success is the ultimate end game.
But avoiding all of the pitfalls such as proper orientation which requires great clarity regarding what truly matters, and the ability to be able to stay faithful on a course which honors our deepest values.
There’s lessons that can be learned from those who previously neglected valuable life experiences, the failures as well as the successes. The ultimate confessions of regret which may be a plea or advice to us to avoid making the same mistakes which were made by their lives.
So perhaps, we can ultimately arrive towards the upper echelons of our lives with more love and gratitude. Once we do, then the final amount of our net worth would not really matter that much.