To become successful in whatever you do, what’s required is having your own personal mental faculties and attitude set firmly in place. Your personal issues solved, this before you can go out and tackle any pursuit that you’re wanting to, in the big bad world out there.
It begins with having your emotional intelligence solved, so any adjustments won’t be required when challenged by the external world. That your attitude is well adjusted, so that you’ll react appropriately to whatever it is that you’re faced with in life and business.
So to become mentally strong is not having any leaks, to give away any of your power, which is easier said than done. There are always certain issues or someone, that will always challenge you and bring the best out of you, or destroy you.
Regardless of what you do, whatever state of life you’re in, if you’re a CEO of a multi-national company, or a housewife operating a home based business, you need to have all your mental issues harnessed.
Having No Power Leaks
Absolutely everyone has at one time or another, surrendered power, have given way to how they were thinking or behaving. We’ve given way to a stronger personality. What giving away this personal power does is you lose your mental strength.
So become mindful by making a conscious choice. Taking back this personal power loss is the key to being in control in your own life. Before you’re able to create positive change, know exactly how you’re giving this power away.
Wasting Energy By Whining And Complaining
What’s polar opposites are complaining and problem solving. Whining to whomever will listen, your coworkers, friends, and family does is keeps you focused on the issue at hand, which prevents you from solving it.
This constant complaining is another way of giving away the power that you have over the situation, while also showing that you have a lack of control over your attitude and emotions.
Accepting Responsibility On How You Feel
What constantly saying that your boss makes you angry, or your mother-in-law makes you feel inferior about yourself, suggests that they have power over your emotions.
Never allow the behavior of others to dictate how you feel. Realize and accept that it’s completely up to you on how you manage your emotions, this regardless of how others behave.
Establishing Healthy Personal Boundaries
Once you refuse to stand up for yourself or give in to guilt trips, what you’re doing is handing over the power reins to them. So instead, you should be blaming them for wasting your time, or making you do something you don’t want to.
Realize that it’s you who’s in charge of what you do. Establishing healthy emotional and physical boundaries does, is it gives you the control on how you mange time with yourself and others.
Always Be Forgiving Towards Others
Holding a grudge against someone is like being an emotional hostage to them, that they’re mentally blackmailing you. Know that they don’t usually realize or even care that they are.
All you’re doing is surrendering your power by punishing yourself, and not punishing the other person. What you’re doing is wasting valuable mental energy thinking about how someone wronged you, which robs you of your ability to enjoy yourself and the moment.
Just forgiving and moving on is the best way that you can take back your power. But forgiving isn’t saying that what the person did was okay, but instead you’re just letting go of the anger and the hurt, which interferes with you enjoying your life.
Establish Your Values
When you don’t know what your values are, then you’re at risk of becoming a victim, this rather than being a confident person who’s in charge of their life.
Then you run the risk of jumping on board with the ideals of others that you don’t believe in, while being easily led astray. So take back your personal power by establishing a core set of values, while living true to what’s most important to you.
Don’t Waste Time Thinking Unproductively
So you come home from a job that you don’t like, plunk yourself on the sofa and begin wishing that you don’t want to go to work tomorrow because you despise it, so you might phone in sick.
All you’re doing is wasting free productive time by thinking of things which are pointless. After all, you know that you can’t afford to take time off, as you need to eat, you have bills to pay.
So take firm control over all these unproductive thoughts which occupies your mind, this by not giving your brain the power to think things that don’t deserve it.
Avoid Becoming A Victim
Once you say things such as, “I have to work 55 hours per week,” or “I’ve got no other choice other than saying yes,” does is suggests that you have a victim’s mentality.
You’re showing that you have no control over uncontrollable circumstances. Although there are certain consequences for the decisions that you make, always remind yourself that you have choices.
Your Life Revolves Around The Opinion Of Others
If your self-worth depends solely on whether others hold you in high regard or not, then you’re nothing more than a people pleaser, surrendering your power to them.
Not everyone will like you, or need to agree with your lifestyle choices. Evaluate the validity of all the criticism that you receive, but never allow the opinion of someone to determine your self-worth.
Fear leads you to blend in with the crowd, attempting to just fit in, which causes you to mask who you really are. Instead, trust your mental strength to be unique, dare to be different.