Once you meet someone socially, and they’re reacting extremely aloof, where they’re head is bobbing sideways and their eyes are darting, what they’re doing is making a poor impression. That maybe they don’t like you, or there’s something wrong with them.
Their mind is clearly elsewhere, they’re scanning the room looking for more exciting people to talk to, or perhaps they’re looking for someone. What’s obvious is they’re not focused on you or the conversation. The worst is they’re looking at their smartphone.
Are you that boring or are they just that rude. If you don’t know each other, what’s obvious is that you most likely won’t speak to each other again. There’s absolutely no interest whatsoever, there’s no connection or chemistry.
Someone Of Interest
If you meet someone intriguing however, who’s completely attentive to you, that they’re actively engaged in the conversation, then what you instantly find is that you’re attracted to them. They’re interesting and likable. Their smartphone rings, they ignore it.
At that very moment, the only thing that’s important, what matters to them is you and no one else. You’re the most relevant person currently, and they’ve granted you their total attention at that time.
To Be Charismatic
This is how charismatic people react, and the reason why they’re able to illuminate that radiance, that special significant influence, this because what they do is connect to you with brilliant impact.
Those who are highly charismatic have magnetic energy, as they have the ability to make you feel special, that you’re the only person in a crowded room. Everyone craves this attention, the ability to make one feel exclusive makes a positive impression.
Increasing Your Own Charisma
What most think is that charisma is innate, a special gift one is born with, a feature which makes someone more attractive than others.
Having charisma is a certain feature that one has in their personality, which makes them standout, sets them apart from the masses of other men and women, almost a supernatural power with exceptional qualities.
It’s thought that these benefits aren’t accessible to the ordinary person, that you have this x-factor or not, that it’s an unique divine gift of good looks and a sparkling personality, that the person is a leader.
What research shows is that having the characteristics of being charismatic, isn’t so much a gift that one is granted with, that this “star” factor is something you’re born with or not, although in some cases that may be true.
What’s known however, is you can refine your own charisma, this by knowing the elements which contributes to it.
Empathy Towards Others
Imagine living in their shoes, the ability to see things from their perspective, by knowing what they’re feeling or currently going through, this by just looking at them.
The way that you can show this empathy is by placing yourself in their situation, this by being fully attentive to them, which you’re only able to do with caring, and not being so full of your ego.
Listening Between The Lines
In order to understand what someone is attempting to say, realize how they say it, or by what they’re not able to say by reading nonverbal cues.
Think of someone who constantly interrupts you, this because they can’t wait to say what they’re wanting. They’re not truly listening to you, they don’t care what you have to say, this because they’re only focused on themselves.
All they’re thinking is their response, how witty or insightful that they’ll sound, how impressive they’ll be. So if you’re distracted or thinking about what you’re going to say next yourself, then you’re not listening.
Appropriate Eye Contact
The ability to hold the gaze of someone without being creepy. Eye contact is the silent killer when it comes to human connection, this especially if both are attracted to each other.
What we feel is that once someone shifts their eye contact away from us, that they’ve mentally moved on, that their attention has shifted elsewhere.
This intuition is correct since what science proves is that once the gaze is broken, then the mind wanders away. This reaction is mechanical while sharing the same region of the brain.
When you’re having direct eye contact with someone, the impact of that connection is extremely powerful. What doing so magnifies you being heard with empathy, that you’re acknowledged by them.
The ability to make someone feel better by giving them praise for their ideas or actions. Genuine enthusiasm is difficult to fake, this because it’s spontaneous emotion.
Enthusiasm occurs once you sincerely engage with what someone’s doing or saying. For you to come across as genuine, you need to sincerely feel it. You’re mind being present with that person becomes essential.
What most worry about is not wanting to come across as nervous, what others might think about them. Most are so paralyzed with this fear, that they end up coming across as scared and distant.
What they do is focus on themselves rather than the other person. When you’re mindful and present, you naturally focus on others, rather than on yourself.
When focusing on others, what you come across as is being self-confident, this rather than skittish, frightened by what others might think of you.
What To Say
To profoundly connect with others you need to communicate fluently. It becomes vital to read your audience by knowing what they’re thinking, if you’re wanting to make an impression.
When you’re completely present with your audience, you’re then able to know their exact state of mind, this so they can understand what you’re saying. You can then readjust what you say, as speaking precisely makes you heard.