What a few drinks at the bar on a Friday night will tell you, is that animal magnetism and lust does exist. It acts as the core activator, when it comes to the law of attraction, this especially if there’s chemistry between two people. There is an instinctive universal reaction that sets off, when it comes someone liking another, this in a world of a billion strangers.
So the question remains, is there a set protocol when it comes to finding the perfect mate, a method of ignition, a guide to follow which allows two strangers to fall for each other. Does this attraction have a chemical reaction, that’s somehow activated.
Some claim that there is, this according to social scientists, as it’s known that the attraction between the same species in the animal kingdom, the opposite sex is attracted to one another because of chemicals known as pheromones.
What No Chocolates?
The effect of pheromones when it comes to the behavior of insects, for instance, is the most apparent. It’s been observed that it’s pheromones, is what’s responsible for all the “invisible” communication which exists among the same species, such as a colony of ants.
The distinct odor that’s released by certain animals which wards off their enemies, is also identified as a type of pheromone. There are some primitive ape species, which are known to rub pheromone on the feet of a potential mate, this to attract them.
Some experts claim that certain animals, usually the female species of insects and mammals, will send out chemical signals to reveal to the male of their particular species, that their genetic makeup is different from theirs.
Wow You Smell Nice
As a result, the perfume industry has capitalized on the effects of pheromones for humans. This with the intention of increasing one’s sexual attractiveness, towards the opposite sex. Animals such as musk deer and certain whale species, are used to manufacture these odors.
What’s also been researched, is if pheromones exists in humans, and if the does, the role it plays when it comes to mate selection. There are conflicting opinions however on its generics, the biology and its chemistry.
Some will argue that pheromones doesn’t exist in humans, or if they do, they don’t play a significant role when it comes to sexual attraction. But there is new evidence which suggests, that they may need to rethink their stand.
One experiment involved women sniffing the shirts of different men, this when they were ovulating. It was found that women preferred the shirts which smelled genetically different from them, but also had similarities with their own genes.
This, similar to insects and other mammals, did was instinctively ensure certain healthy characteristics were there, when it came to having potential offspring.
The researchers cautioned that the preferences of their odor selection, may have been affected because of the women’s ovulation period.
Personality And Attraction
Odor does matter, but so does the perception, the aura of a potential mate’s personality at first glance. According to research based on interpersonal attraction, how a person projects themselves, struts their stuff, their self confidence, are strong determinants of attraction.
What this tells us, is that certain people prefer a certain type of personality, when it comes to deciding how attracted they are to a particular person.
What we’ll do, is instantly determine what the actual personality of the individual is, even by looking at a photograph, which can only be verified through meeting and having a conversation.
This interaction over time, it’s the perception that’s held of this person, is what attracts them to that particular individual, regardless if it’s the type of personality that they’re looking for or not.
This explains what’s most commonly heard between a man and a woman, when it comes to their relationship failing, which is “You’re not who I thought you were, I thought you were someone different…”
Attraction And Relationships
It’s thought that love at first sight is a prelude, which opens the door when it comes to a new relationship. This especially at the beginning. But then it’s found, that just physical attraction alone won’t make the relationship last.
It’s physical attraction, that usually makes you take first notice of a person of the opposite sex, but once you get to know them better, attraction often becomes secondary, but more of a compliment.
What matters more is what they have in common, if they share similar dreams, have mutual passion, which all plays a significant role when it comes to long term relationships.
Should I Stop Being Attractive Then?
More than attempting to look as physically attractive as possible, instead, why not work on every area of your mental, emotional, and spiritual makeup.
Physical attraction however, will always be a precursor. Biology dictates us to choose the partner who has the healthiest genes. So we’re always initially attracted to the most prettiest or the most handsome person.
Once you do become emotionally and physically attracted to someone however, that they’re “The One,” stop and ask yourself if you can hold up your end of the bargain.
No one wants to be with someone who’s constantly insecure. So make it a point of knowing yourself, evolve yourself, know who you are, what your beliefs, values, and dreams are.
Never pretend to be someone who you’re not. Fooling someone to think you share the same values as them, will only cause disappointment, heartbreak, and eventually splitsville.
Provided you’re healthy, how attractive you look becomes a secondary consequence. There are those who claims that security and confidence, matters more that being just physically attractive.
So make sure you keep high standards for yourself, but not in the attempts to impress or attract someone for the intention to deceive. This is how you can truly project, how attractive you are as an individual.