Unfortunately, the simple act of communicating with one another can lead to confused messages, or messages being missed entirely. This is especially true when it comes to communication between men and women. It’s no wonder there’s conflict, when they interpret the same conversation in different ways. This is because of the different conversational styles of men and women.
Many examples will stereotype male/female responses. There are many exceptions to the examples identified. Analyze how you feel or respond to situations; compare them to those described, and decide if you need to change anything in your communication style.
Women Talk More… Wow Really?
As women grow up, talk is the thread from which relationships are woven. They develop and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets, and regard talking as the cornerstone of friendships. Men bond as intensely as women, but their friendships are based more on doing things together and don’t require talk to cement relationships. Men converse to negotiate status; women to create rapport. Men are comfortable telling people what to do; women don’t like to pull rank, so request, rather than demand (which leads the men to believe they have the right to accept or refuse the woman’s request).
When conversing, women face each other directly, with eyes anchored on each others face. Men sit at angles to each other and look elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other and often mirror each others body movements. Men’s tendency to face away from them when conversing gives women the impression that the men aren’t listening to them, when in fact they are. The only times men will really look for any length of time at the person who’s speaking are when they’re trying to evaluate whether the speaker is lying or not; the speaker is hostile and they may have to take defensive action; or they’re evaluating an attractive woman.
In this last case, they’ll glance over the woman’s body while listening to her comments. This is highly distracting to the female speaker because the man’s eyes mirror that he’s not really listening to what she’s saying, but rather sizing her up as a woman.
Another habit that gives women the impression men aren’t listening is that they switch topics more often. Women tend to talk at length about one topic; men tend to jump from topic to topic. When a woman expresses her point of view, her female listener usually expresses agreement and support, whereas men point out the other side of the issue. Women see this as disloyalty and a refusal to offer support to their ideas. Women prefer other points of view expressed as suggestions and inquiries, rather than as direct challenges or arguments. Men are more comfortable with an oppositional style.
Men Expect Less
Men expect silent attention and interpret constant listener noise as signs of impatience on the listeners’ part. When men don’t make listening noises, women may assume they’re not listening to them. Women make more listening noises such as “uh-huh …” to encourage the other person. Men often believe these noises mean the woman agrees with him, when she may not agree with him at all. Because men don’t make as many listening noises, women assume they’re not really listening. Men are also less likely to make non-verbal signs of listening, and many continue doing whatever they were doing before the conversation began.
Women are more likely to nod their head more, give direct eye contact, and stop whatever else they may have been doing when the conversation began.
Women often overlap and finish each others sentences (normally, neither is offended). Men clam up or react defensively when women do this to them, because they feel the woman’s trying to take over the conversation. Men feel it’s rude to finish another’s comments and shows lack of attention to what they’re saying, but are more likely to interrupt with negative side comments.
To find a job in film making is quite a difficult task, film making is not widely advertised. Film makers looking for a crew rely on networking and the gossip route to communicate. Positions are filled by the time production starts.
When a film is being made, any jobs are only the duration of the production. Film makers and producers are only into one project at a time, they do not hire a permanent crew especially when they are an independent contractor and not part of a major network.
It is based on what and who you know, and most importantly, what you have done in film lately. Anyone who has worked in film making knows you are always thinking ahead to the next job while you are on this one. If you do not know how this business works and what the hiring process is, you will not get anywhere. You need to formulate a few strategies to get hired.
If you are new to film making never send a resume unless it is asked for. Producers and directors don’t have time to read through these and they will usually end up trashed. When a job in film making is in the classified ads, they are usually taken before the ad is in print. Quite a few personnel departments advertise jobs that they already have someone in mind for, to show good intentions when it comes to equal opportunity. They are able to show that the job was open and in the papers before anyone was hired by the number of resumes they received before they hired someone.
Do not make demands at the interview or spout off a list of the errands or tasks you will not perform, you may as well stay home if this is your plan. A job in film making or television, means schedules and even tasks are constantly being adjusted. There is no set quitting time and a work day is usually 10 to 12 hours long. Your family and friends are put on a back burner while you are working on a project. Those who work in the film making industry love their jobs and wouldn’t think of doing anything else.
Fake It Till You Make It…
Never act like a beginner, even if you are, as you will find you will not get anywhere in this business. No matter if it is your first day, the moment you are hired you are a professional. Always think and act professionally, if you don’t you may be let go as the powers that be may feel you are not competent to handle the job.
Professional people produce high quality results, no matter how long they have been on the job. They never worry about the pay, long hours, or tasks they need to perform. A professional has learned the rules of the trade before they step onto a set, and will act accordingly to achieve excellence in their work. They are always working to be the best at what they do to convince the film maker that you were the right choice for this job and hire them for the next project.
You need to maintain a good attitude most of the time, nobody wants to work with someone who constantly has a poor outlook and is sour all of the time. Everyone has an off day, but that shouldn’t be every day. If you are a downer most of the time or have a great deal of personal problems, this type of job is not for you.
If you really desire a job in the film making industry you may need to accept an internship or volunteer and show them how professional you are. You will need to be willing, as a beginner, to work for little money or even free. Once you have your foot in the door and show that you are willing to go the distance and do an excellent job you will have a good chance of being hired on future projects.
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In adapting such a complex, cherished book as The Lovely Bones, its not surprising that Peter Jackson would get one thing wrong. But its a big thing. Alice Sebolds 2002 novel is told from the perspective of a 14-year-old girl who has been murdered and is watching from heaven as her family self-destructs, then rebuilds from the tragedy. Jackson, who had such success mixing human darkness and fantasy in his early film Heavenly Creatures, here goes into full, CGIhappy Lord of the Rings mode: Susie (Saoirse Ronan) inhabits a psychedelic afterlife of rolling Teletubbies fields, Middle Earth mountains, and Moody Bluesalbum sunrise skies. What Jackson forgets in these wildly distracting sequences is that Sebolds novel, even though it draws on the supernatural, is very much rooted on Earth. When the movie returns to that Earth, it is often moving. Jackson does a perfectly detailed job of evoking the late 70sfrom the split-level houses and woody station wagons to the David Cassidy posters, photo cubes, and Archie comics that litter Susies room. This is important: this is a story about the loss of innocence, and the era was a time when no one believed that bad things would happen to them. The characterizations are also mostly strong, too, centred around Ronans ice-blue-eyed teen, a nonsaccharine mix of sweetness and naivet. Stanley Tuccis psychopath is truly sinister in his unassuming comb over and windbreaker, and Susan Sarandons steely granny is a treat too: a woman who can juggle a vacuum, drink, and smoke at the same time. But we need more from Rachel Weiszs catatonic, absentee mother, and Mark Wahlberg is one-dimensionally bug-eyed in his rage. Still, my biggest fear about the film adaptation, that Susies rape and murder might somehow become explicit, is never realized: Jackson, like Sebold, handles it in deft impressions. If only he could have shown such restraint with his hobbit-tinged heavens. |
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Hollywood hasnt ended the world this often since the 1950s, it didn’t end then, so the odds this time are remote as well. Twin filmmakers Allen and Albert Hughes decided to return to the big screen after a nine-year hiatus (their last film together was From Hell ) with a postapocalyptic fable about a lethal warrior with a precious book. Eli (Denzel Washington) has what might well be the last King James Bible in the world. Its 2043 and, after the flash, all such texts have been destroyed on the grounds that they were bad influences on the human race. Now he must protect this scriptural treasure from the clutches of Carnegie (Gary Oldman), the megalomaniacal mayor of a burned-out desert town. (In his upstairs saloon office, this scenery-chewing Oldman looks uncannily like Larry King pretending to be Deadwood s dangerously mercurial Al Swearengen.) Rarely has a movie worn its cultural references so baldly on its sleeve. As Eli heads west down Cormac McCarthys road, he must deal with violent bikers straight out of George Millers The Road Warrior . The townscapes are pure Heavy Metal (the illustrated fantasy magazine, not the much-disparaged musical style), and Eli himself bears more than a passing resemblance to a Japanese pop-culture hero (think samurai; despite the omnipresent radiation damage, I am obviously not referring to Godzilla). Ultraviolent but full of pious platitudes, The Book of Eli seems to have been made primarily for Baptists with a guilty yearning for sleaze. To be sure, body parts roll and loose women abound, but that wont keep these viewers out of church on Sunday morning. Who knows? This movie might actually appeal primarily to those who are accustomed to thinking of Hollywood as a limb of Satan. |
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It was a year of outer-space spectacles and inner-city dramas, animated delights and sombre period pieces. Critical acclaim may yet swirl around flicks like Crazy Heart and The Messenger, but they wont hit local screens until 2010. Thus, the following is how the best of this years celluloid lot stacked up for our movie reviewers. The Hurt Locker, Inglourious Basterds, and Up in the Air scored the most accolades with our critics, with An Education and District 9 coming in a close second. Hair-metal has-beens, supersized pregnant teens, and crustaceanlike aliens: it was a weird cast of characters in the years best films. I wouldnt have it any other way. Sin Nombre Precious: Based On The Novel Push By Sapphire Sunshine Cleaning Inglourious Basterds The September Issue Anvil! The Story Of Anvil The Necessities Of Life The Hurt Locker Up In The Air District 9 |
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When it comes to vampire flicks, I prefer the down n dirty kind. Screw the refined elegance of Bram Stokers Dracula or Interview With the Vampire; give me the gritty backwoods bloodsucking of Near Dark any day. I want to hear undead biker Bill Paxton bellow, I hate it when they aint been shaved! before gorging himself on a rednecks neck. Daybreakers is the visual opposite of Near Dark. Its upscale vampires wear tailored suits, drive luxury cars, and savour blood from wine glasses. Its 2019, and they exist in a polished, gleaming world where amber-eyed vamps rule and humans have been hunted almost to extinction. Lifes a bitch, and then you dont die, quips hematologist Edward Dalton (Ethan Hawke). If he doesnt discover a substitute for human blood soon then he and his neck-biting brethren are toast. His experiments are carried out under the eye of his greedy boss, Charles Bromley (Sam Neill), who runs a corporation that farms humans for their precious and fast-diminishing fluid. In the glossy, blue-tinted future created by sibling Aussie writer-directors Michael and Peter Spierig, blood is the new oil, and the ramifications of peak blood arent pretty. After an impressive first half that scores points with such timely socioeconomic speculationplus the most entertaining exploding-body scene everthings start to sour when the monumentally miscast Willem Dafoe shows up as a 50s-style hipster in full-on Happy Days garb. Hes the Elvis-quoting leader of an underground militia and the only person whos ever changed from vampire back to human, so naturally Dalton takes that as a cue to try and save the world. Around here Daybreakers clever streak runs out and the previously witty, refreshing film becomes a predictable action romp thats big on over-the-top gore but lacking in everything else. |
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He was making a movie with a director whose own decision to work with his wife had been calamitous, but Robert Downey Jr. was excited about setting up shop for Guy Ritchies movie Sherlock Holmes with his own spouse, producer Susan Downey, and her long-time boss, Joel Silver. In Londons Freemasons Hall, one of the locations for the movie, Downey says it worked out well. She is fantastic, he says. There was a lot of den-mothering in this process. Sometimes we were having so much fun and a huge stunt was going down and he [Ritchie] would be playing his guitar and I would be saying, Look at Nero over there, fiddling while Rome burns. Susan would be saying, Dont say that. We have to do something. Susan, who produced films like Gothika and Ghost Ship for Silvers Dark Castle Entertainment under the name Susan Levin, is credited by some in the industry with saving former alcohol and drug abuser Downey from himself. She says it makes sense for them to work together. We have a good time, she says. Making a movie takes so much time out of your life and so much energy, so we try to find a way of doing it together. That is certainly our preference, and I think we have a way of making people comfortable with each other. He is a little nutty, but it keeps things fresh. The movie, which opens on Friday (December 25), stars Downey as the iconic Holmes and Jude Law as his partner in crime, Dr. Watson. The two manage to track down a serial killer who plays with black magic, and they even watch him hang for his crimes. However, he makes a comeback within days and the hunt is on again. Meanwhile, Watson is ready to leave Holmes behind to get married, and an old flame of Holmess (Rachel McAdams) has reappeared in his life, ready to play havoc with it. While the traditional Sherlock Holmes productions portray Watson as almost subservient, this version fits in more with the bromance subgenre of buddy films. For it to work, there had to be chemistry between the two lead actors. Downey says he finds it strange to hear himself and Law compared with traditional romantic comedy teams. I am so used to people saying, You and your costar had such great chemistry on-set, but here they are talking about Jude and I like we should be doing romantic comedies. It is not a comedy, and it is a love affair of sorts. Holmes and Watson are aspects of all of us, and we knew when to yin and yang back and forth. But we were just a good team. Downey has come a long way in a short time. Its been a little more than 10 years since he was a regular visitor to California jails. However, thanks to box-office and critical success in recent movies like Iron Man and Tropic Thunder, he is now considered one of the worlds biggest movie stars. He says that if there is a secret to his success, it is that he keeps busy. I dont get scared anymore; I just get busy. I have definitely felt the onus of the fear of the judgment of others, but at a certain point it comes down to will. You meet the standards that people expect of you and you expect of them. In the case of this film, I knew that this was a fresh interpretation of the Sherlock Holmes story, and I have worked with Joel Silver a bunch and I have lived with Susan Downey a bunch, so I knew that I was in good hands. So again, it was a matter of getting down to business. Downey says that working in Londonone of the locations of 1992s Chaplin, for which he won an Academy Award nominationreminded him that the American way of doing things is not always the best approach. There is something about the work ethic here and the people and the culture. As Americans, Joel and Susan and I have a bit of an abrupt attitude. We got here and said, Lets get down to work. Fuck what you are going through. We will eat later. We were very shortly reminded that there is a much more civilized way of operating. They [the British cast and crew] would say, Lets put out a little cheeseand lets talk and lets be grownups. It has been a huge experience in the proper way of doing things. So was it a better experience than he had in London with Chaplin? Downey isnt sure. I kind of sucked 20 years ago. Far be it for me to say what was good, when and where, since I barely remember any of it. |
Do Not Get Discouraged - When first learning the guitar, or any instrument for that matter, you may find yourself getting discouraged, or perhaps saying to yourself “this is just too difficult”. You may find yourself practicing the same song or chords over and over again, and never getting any better at it. Do not let this discourage you. Sometimes are brains just need a little rest, or need to be occupied with something else. Take a break and come back to your practice with a fresh mind. Practice - The more often that you practice your guitar the more familiar you will become with the instrument. Your playing will become easier over time. Try and free up at least 20 minutes of time every day to practice your guitar. Find a time and location where you know you will not be interrupted. Interruption can really kill your concentration and snap you out of a good rhythm. Warm your hands and stretch your fingers before you play. Talk with your guitar teacher to develop the best practice exercises that are right for your style of playing. Create an effective practice schedule - The length of your practice is not necessarily the most important thing. Usually it is the quality of your practice that is most important. Make sure your guitar teacher is giving you a well-rounded approach to guitar playing and helping you make the most of your practice sessions. Slow Down - One great bit of advice with your practicing don’t play too quickly! Many new guitar players will rush through a lick or a song in the beginning, trying to play it exactly as they hear it and only wind up butchering it. Before you can play anything correctly, you must learn to slow down and play it right at a much slower speed. You can then slowly increase your speed as you improve. Watch your posture - Guitar playing should not be extremely painful and uncomfortable. If you find yourself with various aches and pains in your shoulders, your neck, your back, etc., chances are you are not in a correct playing posture. Ask your guitar teacher to demonstrate a proper playing posture, then do your best to stick to it. Tell your teacher to observe you during practice and correct you whenever you fall out of the correct posture. Get a metronome - A very important part of guitar playing is the ability to keep good timing. An instrument, which will help you become better at timing, is called a metronome. You can purchase this at any guitar center. When working with a metronome, in the beginning, you should start off at a slow speed. This will help you build your muscles and develop better control and good playing habits. Change your strings - Your guitar strings are very important to the quality of sound your guitar produces. How often you change your guitar strings really depends on how often you play. Professional guitar players may change their strings before every gig. Others who don’t play as often, may change their strings every 2 months or so. Again it really depends on how often you play, and how well you take care of your guitar strings. Don’t wait until your strings break before you change them and you should change all of your strings at the same time. Try new things/experiment - If you feel uninspired in your guitar playing why not try something fresh and different? If you have mastered a particular song on your electric guitar, why not try the same song on an acoustic guitar? If you only play your guitar using a pick, put down the pick and just use your fingers. Perhaps you only enjoy playing blues guitar. Why not try some jazz or classical? I hope these guitar tips were helpful. The most important thing is to never get discouraged and never give up. Persistence is key when it comes to playing the guitar. If you really have a sincere desire to learn, and you continue to practice, you will become a better guitar player. |
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A few years ago, Daniel Day-Lewis, the son of a poet and the grandson of the founder of a British movie studio, left the movies behind to find poetry in the making of shoes in Florence, Italy. He was at the top of his game but felt he needed some time off. When he returned to the business, he won a third Academy Award nomination (for 2002s Gangs of New York) and followed it up with his second Oscar, for 2007s There Will Be Blood. It made sense, then, that he would be a good choice for the role of an Italian filmmaker who is concerned that he is burned out. The movie Nine, which opens on December 25, is based on the Broadway musical of the same name. Both are set in 1965 and follow the plight of director Guido Contini as he tries to make a movie while dealing with the emotional baggage of a full life. In addition to Day-Lewis, the film stars Nicole Kidman, Marion Cotillard, Judi Dench, Kate Hudson, Penlope Cruz, Sophia Loren, and Stacy Ferguson. In a New York City hotel room, Day-Lewis says that although he was apprehensive about taking on the part, he could relate to it. The tone of the script was beautiful, but I had concerns that I could appreciate it from the outside without being drawn into the world he was describing. But anyone who does any kind of creative work at some time in their lives knows that as you grow into middle age, you come to a time where you question whether you have anything else to offer. You feel utterly bereft of whatever creative force it takes to do that work. I suppose I was interested in that dilemma for a man who is about to shoot a film but is living in a wasteland of his own making. Although Day-Lewis was able to find a way into the character of Contini, the second part of the equation was more challenging. Guido daydreams that his life is a musical. And he sings. Day-Lewis had never sung in a movie before, and he told the films director, Rob Marshall, that he may have chosen the wrong man for the role. I tried to convince him not to hire me because I thought he should use someone else, he says. I even gave him some names, but he said, I think you can sing. So I said, Lets put it to the test, and Paul Bogaev, our musical director, and I tried to stagger through the songs. Quite clearly, I was incapable of singing them, but Rob still managed to convince me that it would be okay. I took the job on blind trust but had severe doubts about it. I had no idea of what the work would be like. I was a choirboy at the local church when I was a schoolboy, but other than that, I hadnt done anything like that. |
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